One Western woman with a Chinese husband writes about love, family and relationships in China 洋媳妇看中国
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 31st, 2010
I wondered why Er Ge — the second oldest brother of John, my Chinese boyfriend — was so painfully quiet. Learning his story was like a window into the pressures of young unmarried Chinese in the countryside.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 30th, 2010
Even as I shot a photo of John’s family during Chinese New Year, I still didn’t see have the entire picture of his family — until I showed them pictures of my own.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 29th, 2010
I never felt such a bitter cold until I went to my Chinese boyfriend’s countryside hometown for Chinese New Year — and discovered I was too embarrassed to ask for more warmth at night, afraid his parents would look down on me.
Posted in Ask the Yangxifu on Mar 26th, 2010
A European girl, who came to China to mend her heartbreak, found love in a Chinese man — but not his parents, who refuse to accept a foreign girl dating their son. Ask the Yangxifu offers advice on how to understand, and overcome, parental refusal.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 25th, 2010
I followed John, my Chinese boyfriend, and his two older brothers as they paid respects at their ancestor’s grave during Chinese New Year. As I stood aside and took pictures, I wondered just how close — or how far — I was from their family.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 24th, 2010
I felt like an anachronism visiting my Chinese boyfriend’s countryside home for the first time, with everything so strange to me. Yet, I was surprised to discover an unusual gesture his parents made, to make me feel welcome and comfortable.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 23rd, 2010
John’s ancestors come from the area near Huangshan — one of China’s most impressive mountains. But his family lives in a countryside ravaged by economic development. I see this first-hand when I visit during Chinese New Year, 2003.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 22nd, 2010
In Chinese New Year, wearing new clothes means a new beginning. One night, after losing my job, I commission a new Chinese-style outfit, in the hopes of a new beginning with John’s parents — and, eventually, with my career.
Posted in Ask the Yangxifu on Mar 19th, 2010
A friend is applying for a US fiancee visa for his Chinese fiancee, but she’s a Communist Party member. Ask the Yangxifu recommends where to get information on how to overcome this immigration challenge.
Posted in Memoirs of a Yangxifu in China on Mar 18th, 2010
As I lost my job in the Chinese Internet company, Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, became closer to management. I never thought Frank would understand, and didn’t see how we could stay friends, until one harried night when I left the company.
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