I really want to ask you a question about “How Chinese Men Can Meet Western Women in US”? Because I would like to stay here and find a western wife! I am on Match.com and I have a lot of American friends, but there is only a few of them who are interested in Chinese Culture, let alone want to marry a Chinese guy!
You may be striking out on Match.com and with your friends. You might have been rejected at the bar last weekend. But, believe me (and, for that matter, all of my amazing female readers from the US who love Chinese men) — we’re out there. It’s just that “there” might not be the kind of place you might expect.
So where is there? Here’s my shortlist of places to start your search for love in the US of A:
Go Back to School (Sort of)
Colleges and Universities. These bastions of intellectual curiosity abound with Western women willing to look beyond the obvious, and beyond the stereotypes, for true love. And you don’t even have to crash the intermediate Chinese language class to find them.
Scour the college or university calendar for events open to the public (or, as they often say, “the community”). It doesn’t have to be related to China, the Chinese, or even Chinese language — just as long as it’s something that will pack the halls with the kind of enlightened, open-minded young women who would give you a chance. Think international/foreign or minority-related topics. In other words, skip the football games, homecoming pageants and veteran’s days celebrations — but check out the International film festival, or the book talk from that author who built schools in Afghanistan, or the Native American culture night, or even the symposium about human rights around the world.
You might even be able to get a little closer by getting involved in university groups open to the public — such as the International Affairs Council at my university, which plans an international symposium every year. Which brings me to my next suggestion…
Instead of your Chinese community center, try an organization dedicated to bringing the international to the public at large through eclectic events, from a talk on India-Pakistan relations to a discussion about child soldiers in Africa over German brews and bratwurst, and even Model UN. You’ll meet people who have, say, actually heard of Bhutan, or worked in Dubai, or desperately want to know about Genghis Khan’s Mongolia.
Some of these groups “live” at your university — like the International Affairs Council I mentioned above. Others thrive in the larger community, such as the Cleveland Council on World Affairs. You might also find something international on Meetup.com.
Every city has what you might call a “holistic community” — the kind of folks who buy dong quai at natural foods stores, read stories about Bodhidharma from their zen meditation sessions, and brew up bitter herbal meds prescribed by their Traditional Chinese Medicine doctor or herbalist. These anything-but-typical Americans are far more likely to know Chinese culture, to travel and have a curiosity about other countries, and to date you too.
Where can you find these people?
Natural foods stores — especially locally owned co-ops — are one possibility. You may not necessarily meet “the one” over your wheat-free Sichuan sauce in the Asian aisle, but co-ops are like a gateway to the holistic world, brimming with alternative newspapers and other sources of information about groups/events in the community that draw out those holistic types. On the other hand, if you like the scene there, some co-ops actually welcome volunteers or people to join the board — it’s a great way to get a little closer.
Find yourself a group (Meetup.com is one place) — from Taoism meetups to Shambala meditation centers. The main rule of thumb is, avoid anything too mainstreamed (i.e., your yoga or pilates class at the local rec center, or the meditation group for stress reduction at the hospital), but gravitate towards groups with more of a philosophical foundation.
Meet the “Public” in Public Radio or TV
Public radio and TV is one of the few places on the airwaves where you can find everything from a glimpse into Iranian culture to a debate about China’s place in the world. So it’s no wonder that public radio and TV fans are some of the most open-minded people in the US — and open to the possibility of love from another culture.
Some stations even go a step further, hosting cool events open to the public. For example, my old station in Cleveland invited the public for a FREE live conversation with World Have Your Say to the studio — and packed the studio with a motley group of young, worldly and passionate people from all over the city.
What did I miss? What are some other ingenious ways to meet those exceptional Western women in the US who could love Chinese men?
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