Chinese Student Wants to Approach American Brunette | Speaking of China

20 Responses

  1. Rebekah
    Rebekah December 10, 2010 at 5:41 am | | Reply

    I first off want to say…I LOVE THIS GUY! As a WF interested in AM, I am so happy to see this mans post. WAY TO GO! I think your advice is perfect, as I have approached a Chinese man in a similar way and though slow to start, I think it may be becoming some sort of friendship now! I love your blog and thank you for helping to spread the AM/WF love!!!! (^_^)

  2. Marcus
    Marcus December 10, 2010 at 7:58 am | | Reply

    Go for it. Don’t be shy. Western Women are more direct so you have to ask. You’ll be surprised because they will find us AM curious and want to date us. Trust me I know:)

  3. Hummingbird
    Hummingbird December 10, 2010 at 10:20 am | | Reply

    Good for you, K! As a WF, I was recently thrilled when an AM with whom I had been having a great conversation offered me his card and invited me to stay in touch with him because he’d like to get together again. Through our entire chat I was wondering if he was as interested in me as I was in him, but as a woman, I didn’t want to seem to pushy. It was nice to have him initiate maintaining contact in that same noncommittal way Jocelyn recommended. Best of luck to you and be sure to let us know how it goes!

    BTW, until I met this Chinese man and did some investigating into his cultural norms, I had no idea how shy Asian men can be. It’s so refreshing to talk to a man who isn’t obviously a pickup artist. But when I think about all the gorgeous shy Asian men who have smiled at me in the past, and I didn’t think they could be interested, I could just die! Oh, how I wish I knew then what I know now!

  4. Mish
    Mish December 10, 2010 at 12:14 pm | | Reply

    I want to know what happens next with him and the girl! This is so exciting! Good Luck, K!

  5. sam
    sam December 10, 2010 at 7:19 pm | | Reply

    take it easy….one step at a time. don’t rush. and always remember. there’s no such thing as good luck. you MAKE your own luck.

  6. Li Lan
    Li Lan December 10, 2010 at 8:47 pm | | Reply

    That’s right, there’s no such thing as good luck, you need a lot of work and preparation to make things happen. So get off the computer, go find that girl, take her out for coffee, hurry. Let us know how things go.

  7. Linda
    Linda December 11, 2010 at 7:17 am | | Reply

    Just go for it bb. Obviously she likes you, and if you ignore her out of shyness, she might think you just genuinely dislike her.

    You’re a human being, hopefully she’s human too…so what’s the big deal? :)) JUST DO IT!

  8. Beki
    Beki December 11, 2010 at 11:55 am | | Reply

    GOOD LUCK K!!!!

  9. Ayeshter
    Ayeshter December 11, 2010 at 6:57 pm | | Reply

    And remember….just be your self. Individuality is very sexy! If she dosn’t like it, her loss!

  10. K
    K December 12, 2010 at 12:28 am | | Reply

    Hi Everyone, This is K here. I was the one who posted the question and just realize the positive and overwhelming support from you guys. It’s truly amazing!

    I’d like to say thank you very much to all first for all your support!
    Next, the semester for undergraduates are now over and I don’t think I will get to see that girl again. HOWEVER, because of that incident, it gave me the confidence and courage that I need to approach WF.

    And that’s exactly what I did!! So right now, I am seeing a beautiful brunette with blue eyes, we are going on dates and speaking on the phone everyday! cheery for another AM/WF relationship! I’ll be visiting her this march in Atlanta to see her parents and family.

    Thank you all for your support! It’s greatly appreciated! 😀

  11. Rebekah
    Rebekah December 14, 2010 at 6:44 pm | | Reply

    GREAT JOB K!!!! My Chinese guy asked me to go to church with him on Christmas Day! I hope I can go!

  12. Grace
    Grace December 15, 2010 at 9:31 am | | Reply

    “GREAT JOB K!!!! My Chinese guy asked me to go to church with him on Christmas Day! I hope I can go!”

    There are many folks here in the US who think that all people of Chinese origin are either Buddhist or have no religion! They are very surprised to find Chinese Christians!

  13. Grace
    Grace December 15, 2010 at 9:32 am | | Reply

    “I’ll be visiting her this march in Atlanta to see her parents and family.”

    My experience with the people of Atlanta has not been great. But, I do wish you all the best! Do come back and tell us!

  14. B
    B December 15, 2010 at 1:21 pm | | Reply

    I am so happy for all of you AM/WF couples! I hope my situation works out as well, but after 4 years, my darlings parents STILL do not know about us(b/c I have a child from a previous relationship-which I know is TABOO!!!!). Good Luck to EVERYONE, and GOD BLESS AM/WF progress!!!!!

  15. AMWW Magazine
    AMWW Magazine December 15, 2010 at 3:44 pm | | Reply

    Comgratulations K! We need more Asian men approaching and asking out white woman!

Leave a Reply