Ask the Yangxifu: How Do I Explain Goth To My Boyfriend? | Speaking of China

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  1. Naomi
    Naomi July 27, 2012 at 8:07 am | | Reply

    Well, at least bats are lucky in Chinese culture!

    Explaining subcultures is pretty hard, I’ve found, even when the person I’m explaining it to is fairly international. I’ve yet to find a good way, so unfortunately all I can say is good luck!

  2. Jason
    Jason July 27, 2012 at 9:38 am | | Reply

    They have Goth in China too……so how can he not know about it?

  3. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian July 27, 2012 at 10:52 am | | Reply

    OMG, every time I come across the word “goth”, it reminds me of batman and goth-am city. Haha..Your Chinese bf gonna be kind of taken aback and think you are kind of er..strange if he didn’t quite expect you to be er.. into goth. But like as not, he should be able to get it when you explain to him. Like Naomi said, bat is luckily a good omen to the Chinese people. Bat is 蝙蝠 bianfu in Mandarin and fu 福 is fortune. Maybe, he might even take to goth and things gothic. So, don’t worry.

  4. Sveta
    Sveta July 27, 2012 at 3:13 pm | | Reply

    All I can say is good luck 🙂 hopefully he’ll like you for you. I have unusual tastes in music or TV shows, so if I’ll meet with my Chinese crush, I might have to show him some episodes from Just Shoot Me or Sitting Ducks or Gargoyles or Arthur and hope he won’t make fun of me for liking those shows…

  5. Dan
    Dan July 27, 2012 at 11:22 pm | | Reply

    It is not such a foreign concept. It really depends on what kind of guy you are dealing with. Plenty of Chinese are aware of the music genre (哥特 in chinese, pronounced as Ge Te). Even in Chinese cities such as Shanghai and Beijing, these sub-cultures are present and have underground following. You will probably end up explaining what “Goth” is again because chances are what he was exposed to won’t be the same thing.

  6. We share because we care
    We share because we care August 2, 2012 at 5:10 am | | Reply

    Goth is already a native cultural thing in Japan since very early on.
    http://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E3%82%B4%E3%82%B9_%28%E3%82%B5%E3%83%96%E3%82%AB%E3%83%AB%E3%83%81%E3%83%A3%E3%83%BC%29

    Chinese people with any level of exposure to manhua, translated from manga, would no doubt have read plenty of comics based around this subject. One title that springs to mind is “Desu Nōto”, Death Note. God help us if he doesn’t know Death Note. Let me be clear: it is huge in Asian countries.

    If your Chinese friend doesn’t know Goth, he is probably in the minority, one that is too pent up to watch a Japanese dorama series. Hardly surprising, as there is yet an outstanding war debt handed down from the 1940s. Many young mainlanders in age group same as you have put that debt aside in pursuit of anime, manga and cosplay. But time and again a few 50 Cent Party members would sound the battle cry, “dadao riben guizi”, down with the Japanese demons. By and large these people do not appear to represent the voice of the people, something we should be thankful for.

    Anyway the point is, it’s incumbent on you to educate him/her in the subject. You may also use Brandon Lee’s “Crow” (1993) for an introduction.

    Here is Goth according to Baidu
    http://baike.baidu.com/view/154737.htm

  7. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh August 7, 2012 at 10:18 am | | Reply

    No offense but she’ll probably scare me away LOL!

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