I’m in a fairly new relationship myself with a nice grad student from China. I’m kind of at a loss as to how I should explain what Goth is to someone who doesn’t have many points of reference for Western culture in general. My clothing style is so subtle I can pass for normal most of the time, but the same cannot be said of my house. He’s going to want to come over to my place at some point and I’m going to have to explain why there’s bats and skulls and spiders on everything. He’s going to think I’m nuts. Help!
My thought — which is perhaps not exactly answering your question — is this: clearly, this guy seems to like you. Best case scenario, he really likes you for who you are. So what if he doesn’t know goth? Does he need to? I’ll bet if he saw all the bats, skulls and spiders in your house, he would just consider it “normal” for Westerners (as Chinese tend to think we’re rather bizarre anyhow). I doubt he’d push you for an explanation on any of it.
But if you had to tell him something, just use the “Westerners are bizarre” excuse, though in nicer wording (such as “we like being different, being individuals,” that sort of thing). Chances are, he won’t push you for anything more than that.
And if all goes well, heck, you two might not be doing much talking at all for the rest of the visit — in a good sort of way. 😉
What do you think?
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