How to Introduce Your (Western) Girlfriend to Your (Chinese) Parents

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  1. Eileen
    Eileen April 1, 2011 at 7:20 am | | Reply

    I am fortunate to not have this problem. My husband and I got married in Key West and his mother and didi (younger brother) were there. I can’t say I can relate. What great advice, though. =o) Very good points.

  2. Eileen
    Eileen April 1, 2011 at 7:24 am | | Reply

    “I am fortunate to not have this problem. ”

    Meaning: I was accepted right away. I didn’t have to go through all that.

  3. Mary
    Mary April 1, 2011 at 8:11 am | | Reply

    Great! Now how do I introduce my Chinese-American boyfriend from Hawaii to my white western parents living in Atlanata!

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian April 1, 2011 at 3:55 pm | | Reply

    Jocelyn, as usual you have great advice. i think the points you have mentioned should really work, and work well. It is always a pleasure to read your blog. Keep up the good work. If there should be a noticeable increase in the number of successful AMWW pairings, you surely have played a part.

  5. Sonja
    Sonja April 3, 2011 at 4:30 pm | | Reply

    Thank you for this article Jocelyn 🙂 It’s very reassuring.

  6. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh April 8, 2011 at 11:11 am | | Reply

    How come I’ve never seen you photographed with your FIL? Was he a harder nut to crack than your MIL?

  7. Caseyorourke
    Caseyorourke December 2, 2011 at 4:07 am | | Reply

    When I married my Chinese wife, her mother, brothers and sisters liked me fom the start. Her father on the other hand refused to even meet me because he was in the Chinese army during the Korean conflict. To him, as an American, I was THE ENEMY!. But from the day I left China till the day she arrived in Texas, she her mother and siblings made it a point of telling him how nice I was. After she came to the US, they kept it up and my wife called him regularly to let him know she was happy. Finally on our next trip to China, he agreed to meet me. As a gesture of thanks, and cosulting with the wife, I bought an antique railroad gold pocket watch as a gift. He loved the gift (after seeing them in moves he watched as a child, always wanted one) and from that moment on decided I was #1 son in law.

    My advice is, just be yourself. If you are a good person, it will come through and the Chinese family will come to accept you

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