Dating Advice for Chinese Men from JT Tran, the Asian Playboy

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  1. Sara
    Sara January 14, 2011 at 3:09 am | | Reply

    Very interesting interview! I totally agree that Chinese guys shouldn’t be that shy and instead learn how to make the first move. I wouldn’t be with my boyfriend right now if he wouldn’t have come to talk with me first. And still he is little bit worried that I’m going to find someone else and leave him. I told him that he shouldn’t be scared, even I could be angry with him, I’m not going to leave him.

    So all Chinese guys, just a little bit more self-confidence and you can find a Western girlfriend. Actually many Chinese boys are asking me to help them to find a girl, but in the end it is their charm that gets them the right girl.

  2. JT Tran
    JT Tran January 14, 2011 at 5:00 am | | Reply

    Thanks so much for holding the interview, Jocelyn! I hope that any men who read it can learn and be inspired by it to step out of their comfort zone, become more confident, and hopefully meet the woman of their dreams. Coincidentally, I was just told that one of my very, very first students just got engaged and will marry this year. It’s a good start for Asian men and I’m also glad that you’ll be contributing to AMWW Magazine: Asian Men & White Women’s Interracial Dating Lifestyle Guide.

  3. Linda
    Linda January 15, 2011 at 7:20 am | | Reply

    Great interview 🙂 Dating and getting the hot girl is all about confidence and acknowledging that YOU are hot too! As a matter of fact, I find that when Asian men are sexy, they are the sexiest of all: no-one else can possibly compare!

    I hope Asian guys realise that they DO have the potential to be hot and attractive in a MANLY way like every other race, not just cute or hyper-metrosexual as the Western media unfairly likes to portray Chinese men. Don’t listen to the typical solely white/black alpha male message- it’s getting old and you’re cooler than them anyway 🙂

    Good luck to all you Asian males out there; it’s your time to shine!

  4. Li Lan
    Li Lan January 16, 2011 at 10:33 am | | Reply

    >>> In 10 years time, because of China’s one child policy, there’s going to be 24 million Chinese men who cannot get wives, because there are not 24 million Chinese women due to infanticide. And in 10 years, that social pressure is going to reverberate throughout the globe.<<<

    JT is right on this point. There is going to be a paradigm shift. Chinese men are going to have to go outside the box if they want to find someone and that someone could well be non-Chinese. Being an over age 35 female myself, the paradigm shift is coming too late for me as Chinese guys my age are still thinking inside the box – that they have to have a Chinese girl. But it's nice to see the paradigm shift start happening in the younger generation.

  5. BRUCE
    BRUCE January 16, 2011 at 10:54 am | | Reply

    I love to see the shift and there will be balance in discrimination. Love to see more asian men with white women. soo yummy!

  6. doorhalfopen
    doorhalfopen January 16, 2011 at 2:21 pm | | Reply

    I am a little disturbed that his magazine specifically targets white women, the same way I am bothered when white guys give classes on how to court Asian women. Can’t it just be women in general?

  7. melanie gao
    melanie gao January 17, 2011 at 1:47 am | | Reply

    JT you are right on target with the confidence thing. It’s the number one thing I tell Chinese bachelors they need to work on before any woman will find them truly attractive.

    Thanks Jocelyn for another great post!

  8. HKGuy
    HKGuy January 18, 2011 at 12:32 am | | Reply

    Hi all, I love this interview, it’s lengthy but it’s totally worthy to read. I would like to comment a little bit, though a bit lengthy too.

    JT was a bit playboy to me in the past whenever I read his article on the internet (nothing against you JT) especially he mentioned Sex quite often. Yet as I tried to practice by “talking to strangers” in bars and clubs, I start to realized that it’s doesn’t hurt to equip certain “skills/strategy” by “practicing” in the bar/club. Below is what I have learned since practicing….

    1. Be more confident talking with strangers
    2. The more you talk to people, the more “topics” in your brain to talk to someone new
    3. A great way to know what usually western girls talk about
    4. Be less desperate, I was a bit desperate before when I couldn’t get the girl I want, but that sucks, and now, I realize that we are not perfect, hence not every western girls are attracted to us, but we need not be too sad when she doesnt want to talk to us, just try what I have to try, and do not care too much about the result. This is the same in the bar, out of 100 people I said Hi, not all of them will reply me right? so just get used to it, need to be too sad.
    5. We need some kind of natural skills to make a girl attracted to us right? Before a girl can appreciate the inner beauty of us, we need to at least past the 1st screening test by them, so that they are interested in us and we can show them our inner beauty. And usually this screen test comes in the beginning when you first talk to the girl.

    So “practicing” in the bar/club is not an evil idea, if you know what you are doing. If you rarely talk to w.girls, you would be so nervous when talking to the one you really like, and chances are gone! Chances are given to those who has prepared! A side note is that whether bar/club is the right place to look for stable/long terelatiorelationship is another story.

    Overall, I am so glad to see JT and Jocelyn work together, suming up the advice from them will be the best advice we can get to have a western girl friends. And this is obviously a GREAT NEWS FOR ALL THE READERS.

    I wont give up, I am still trying, learning, improving, and so do other Asian brothers, it’s our time to SHINE!!!

  9. Jack
    Jack October 10, 2013 at 9:15 am | | Reply

    ahahahahahahaha im not even gonna read this garbage; this fugly mofo is a player?? What a joke; just cause you’re Asian doesn’t mean you’re ugly like this doucheface. Exhibit A: Me

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