Showing Chinese Men You're "Not Interested" | Speaking of China

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  1. George
    George September 3, 2010 at 7:51 am | | Reply

    You got to figure out why you are not interested in him and he needs to figure out why he is interested in you..may be for all the right or wrong reasons..but should be honest!

  2. Richard
    Richard September 3, 2010 at 1:59 pm | | Reply

    Heh… this guy obviously needs to learn some seduction techniques before trying to hit it up with sophisticated western women. “Confessing” has a poor success rate.

    As for the problem at hand, the best thing to do is to say that you have an overseas boyfriend.

  3. The Chinese guy
    The Chinese guy September 3, 2010 at 2:25 pm | | Reply

    I don’t understand why women don’t take a leaf out of the adventure riders hand book tbh. Tiffany is expert at this.

    I.e. if you go to a foriegn country bring along a ring, keeping it in your pocket, when such a proposal is said, hand in pocket slip ring on…

    I’m terribly sorry but I’m married.

    TCG does exactly the same thing when 小姐 solicit me sometimes on the streets when I visit China. No sorry I’m married…. though this doesn’t tend to work too often as a lot of them seem to say no problem or I can be your little wife….

  4. Mali
    Mali September 5, 2010 at 1:04 pm | | Reply

    I’ve once been in a similar situation as you, with a Chinese friend. I am wondering now whether my “method” was all wrong.
    This friend confessed his affection, too. I told him that I wasn’t interested, and he insisted that I could change my mind one day. I’ve been really straight forward, saying there’s no way – I told him a couple of times. He was still hoping to get a chance, so I told him that I don’t feel comfortable having any contact with him any more. That’s it – luckily he was not a colleague. I haven’t meant to be rude, but I didn’t know how to deal with the situation…

  5. Magnus
    Magnus September 21, 2010 at 10:16 pm | | Reply

    How does a girl say this? “a seemingly casual dinner ended up being (apparently) a date.”
    how does this happen unless the guy is a creep?

    I like your idea Jocelyn of becoming a match maker…great idea. Nothing worse than the girl you’re interested in telling you that they can find a great girl for you! UGH!

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