This week, I’m pre-empting the usual Q&A, to give you a review of the free audio dating CD, “Exposing the Myth Behind Why Asian Men Can’t Date Western Women,” and free e-book, “Enter the Pickup Artist Preview,” by JT Tran, the Asian Playboy.
Over the past year, I’ve gotten a lot of e-mails from Chinese men, who are desperate to know one thing — how to date Western women.
And so I’ve answered, from advice on how to meet Western women in China or America, to how to approach Western women in China, to even dishing out my suggestions for a Chinese student pursuing a brunette here in the US.
But the truth is, as good as my answers are, there’s much more to getting in a relationship with a Western woman than being in the right place, and having the right approach. That’s because you can fail for so many other reasons — because you don’t have the confidence, or you lack personality, or you don’t know how to hold a conversation, or you have the wrong body language.
Fortunately, there’s an Asian brother out there who understands. JT Tran was once, as he puts it, a “textbook nerd” who studied engineering in college here in the US, and had absolutely no clue on how to get American women. He was even rejected by eHarmony for being “too analytical and cerebral.” That was the wake-up call that jumpstarted his own transformation into the guy now known as “the Asian Playboy” — the number one dating coach for Asian men.
Yes, I was a little skeptical too. After all, I’m not the kind of girl who runs around with playboys — never have, never will. The whole idea of a “playboy” seems against one of the most important things I have loved about dating Chinese men (namely, that they generally date seriously, with the intent to marry you). So why should I support a guy who might just turn all of these great Chinese men out there into lifelong playboys?
To be sure, JT could teach you how to be a playboy, if you really wanted. And he doesn’t shy away from talking about sex and seduction. But, the thing is, JT doesn’t discriminate. He also teaches many men how to find the love of their lives, that one dream girl they finally marry. And, after listening to his free advanced audio dating CD and e-book, I believe a lot of Chinese men could learn from JT, so they can confidently approach any Western woman out there.
First of all, the audio dating CD — “Exposing the Myth Behind Why Asian Men Can’t Date White Women” — really grabbed my attention just because it was so fun to listen to. JT Tran, along with William, the Better Asian Man, are so easygoing and affable throughout the CD. At times, I almost felt like I was eavesdropping on two Asian men swapping their best dating advice and dating stories. These guys are so relatable — and I found myself nodding my head at the examples they gave, because I’d seen or heard similar things from other Chinese or Asian men.
For example, William said he was once like a “walking contradiction” — because he had a really muscular physique, but lacked the social skills to go along with it. William also confessed that he was afraid to approach White women in the US, because he believed they wouldn’t find him attractive, since that’s what he saw on TV.
JT and William drive home the idea that White women actually perceive Asian men in a more neutral, not negative, way. That might be hard for Chinese men in China to believe, given the results of a recent survey on What Western Women Think of Chinese Men. Or even the way Western women bemoan the dating scene in China over and over again.
On the other hand, the more important thing is that JT and William encourage Asian men to go beyond the negativity (“stop watching or listening to anything negative [about Asians]”), and instead see themselves as worthy of getting any girl they want. And I’m totally with them on this. I would love it if more Chinese men ditched the “I’m not worthy” mentality every time they see a Western woman.
Then come the tips. JT and William cover how to start building your confidence (such as William’s self-expanding beliefs, which were even inspiring to me). They talk about the importance of fashion and appearance, and how you can dress and style your hair to look more attractive (which even helped JT, who described himself as short, chubby, and not the best-looking guy in the room). They also talk about improving your “verbal game” and share some openers you could use with a woman in a bar (I was, admittedly, rolling my eyes at a few of these, but I’m willing to concede that there can be a time and place for them, provided you get the delivery right).
I loved William’s personal stories at the end — in particular, how he romanced a White woman, despite how she claimed she didn’t date Asian men, and that the experience actually ended up restoring her faith in men. And William’s not one to shy away from getting really personal, even confronting the “Asian men have small penises” question (and dishing out an awesome comeback for it).
My only criticism is that JT and William lose you every now and then with some of their references. For example, pickup artist lingo, such as AMOG or kiss-close (both of which I had to look up). Or hair care product suggestions (which I don’t remember on any of the shelves in Watson’s). Or things that only Americans would understand, such as “corn-fed Midwesterner.” Fortunately, JT and William are talkers, and generally state the same advice several different times. So even if you don’t understand one sentence, just keep listening, and you’ll get it.
You won’t always get it, however, with the e-Book, called “Enter the Pickup Artist Preview.” That’s not because it has more jargon (which it does). It’s just dealing with a more inherently complicated subject, the subtle art of seduction. JT does his best to give a thumbnail sketch of picking up women, from exercises for improving your body language to tips on building sexual interest. But it’s hard to translate flirtations to the written page, because it’s something you really need to see in action. And, after all, this e-Book is only a preview — but an extremely generous one at that.
When it comes to sex, not everyone will be comfortable with what JT puts out there in the e-Book. But, on the other hand, that’s the good thing about JT — that he presents the whole spectrum of possibilities, and lets you decide how far you want to go.
Do I recommend getting the free CD and e-book? Absolutely. While this is no ultimate roadmap for picking up Western women, it’s still inspiring and insightful — a great starting point for any Chinese man who wants to to date us.
Best of all, it’s free — so think of this as my Christmas gift to all of the Chinese men out there, reading this blog. 😉
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