Ask the Yangxifu: Should I Wear a Qipao in My Chinese Wedding? | Speaking of China

17 Responses

  1. dingjie
    dingjie August 31, 2012 at 3:11 am | | Reply

    Qipao originated in Manchu
    Baidu 汉服 han fu Han nationality Traditional clothing

  2. Ryan
    Ryan August 31, 2012 at 6:00 am | | Reply

    You can do what my Chinese wife decided (at the last minute) to do: wear the white wedding dress for the ceremony and then change into the qipao for the reception. Both sides would be happy, and it is a lot easier to get food stains out of a red, highly-ornamented qipao. Good luck!

  3. fernando
    fernando August 31, 2012 at 6:46 am | | Reply

    qipao is manchurian tradition not han’s,so don’t worry.besides,u got different colours to choose from,not only red,some nice and sparkle will do it.Good luck.

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian August 31, 2012 at 7:13 am | | Reply

    Go ahead, wear a qipao for the reception like Ryan suggested. If you won’t want red, maybe some other bright colour like pink, orange. I always think that qipao lends elegance. And it is not everyday or occasion that you get a chance to wear it and stand out from the crowd. Certainly you should not miss this opportunity – it is your wedding lady, and to a Chinese guy! That would be the best occasion to wear a qipao! You will make everyone happy, including yourself. Jocelyn looks great too in a red qipao! and nobody is thinking bad about her I am sure! All the best wished to you.

  5. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian August 31, 2012 at 7:15 am | | Reply

    oops, read “All the best wishes..” not “All the best wished..”

  6. Sveta
    Sveta August 31, 2012 at 11:43 am | | Reply

    Good luck 🙂 If there’s a chance of me being married, I probably would insist on celebrating in a traditional Asian style, be it Chinese or Korean or Japanese. I also would want to wear traditional Asian clothing. Believe it or not, I’m not a fan of white wedding dress, thus my ideal dress would be blue colored. (Although if there will be a future husband, and he really insists, I’ll probably end up with white… 🙁 )

  7. Bruce
    Bruce August 31, 2012 at 12:07 pm | | Reply

    Don’t worry so much on the color and no need to argue over what color to wear. I went to so many Chinese weddings and most brides didn’t wear red. Being happy at the wedding is your main focus!

  8. Laowai in Shanghai
    Laowai in Shanghai August 31, 2012 at 3:39 pm | | Reply

    I never wanted a white wedding dress, and red is my favorite color… Qipao all the way. There was a red one in the beginning of the ceremony and a teal one for later in the afternoon….

    I also considered the cost. White wedding dresses are insanely expensive. A tailor made qipao, less than $100. Alterations on a wedding dress probably cost as much as a qipao.

  9. Melanie Gao
    Melanie Gao August 31, 2012 at 9:46 pm | | Reply

    This isn’t about a dress. This is about how you’re going to make decisions for yourself and your family in a cross-cultural relationship.

    To what extent will you take your family’s and his family’s concerns into account? To what extent will you just do whatever you want? How much will you care what people think, how it looks? How much significance will you attach to seemingly small things? Those are the real questions here. Color and style of dress are merely symptoms of a bigger issue.

    Be aware that the way you make these pre-wedding decisions is going to set the precedent for how you make decisions later in life.

    Regarding the dress though my personal opinion is that you should wear whatever the heck you want for your big day! And rock it! 🙂

  10. Crystal in May
    Crystal in May September 3, 2012 at 2:13 am | | Reply

    Actually you don’t need to wear a red Qipao, any other colors representing happiness and propitiousness would be fine, such as gold.

  11. Chris
    Chris September 3, 2012 at 3:00 am | | Reply

    It does not have to be red. For the young generation of Chinese, not everybody likes red. I went to several Chinese weddings recent years, did not see any bride wearing red, most of the brides wear white wedding dress.
    And it does not have to be Qipao, just talk to your boyfriend’s family, tell them what is your family’s expection and your favorite, I think they will understand you.
    Good luck!

  12. szewei
    szewei September 6, 2012 at 8:05 pm | | Reply

    haha i think she does not need 2 wear red mang…qipao from different colors is more than enough 2 stand out from the crowd seriously ^^

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  14. Kin
    Kin September 10, 2012 at 6:41 am | | Reply

    I notice the Qipao you’re wearing isn’t the typical Chinese wedding dress. I guess people nowadays have a more casual attitude towards what they wear in their weddings.

  15. quinn
    quinn September 10, 2013 at 10:26 pm | | Reply

    I’m considering designing my own dress. That marries the qipao and the western white dress. I don’t think I want to do the full on dress change since getting ready takes so much time.

    We’re going to try the fusion thing. Red accents and a mandarin collar to appease his family and white and fluffy to appease mine. And my bridesmaids will wear jade-toned qipaos.

    Is this appropriate? It’s what i’d like. But i want to make sure my wonderful inlaws are happy too. My parents are pretty loose but his parents really want to make sure their culture is represented. And i love them all and want everybody to be happy.

  16. RyanZ
    RyanZ February 26, 2014 at 12:22 am | | Reply

    Definitely wear the qipao. It’s such a flattering style. The best thing about having an international wedding is being able to let go of all the expectations of the usual American wedding, and do something different.

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