Ask the Yangxifu: The Word "Love" and Chinese Men | Speaking of China

9 Responses

  1. Adam W
    Adam W July 31, 2010 at 1:48 am | | Reply

    I’ve come to realize that it’s quite popular to say among Asian people that speak English as a second language. I think more often than not, however, they don’t quite understand the “seriousness” that goes along with the word. Depends on who taught them and how well they understand Western culture.

  2. Lovejulia
    Lovejulia July 31, 2010 at 11:55 am | | Reply

    I wish some western girl love me!!

  3. fern
    fern August 1, 2010 at 2:58 am | | Reply

    Urgh! Chinese guys are so frustrating! I feel you frustration because here in China they’ll never ever get around to doing anything. They’re too shy and they make you feel like a fool for even being interested!

    My advice, you’re probably going to have to make a bold move like grabbing his hand or something because it’s impossible to talk about it even if they’re speaking English it’s like they’re speaking another language!

  4. Crystal
    Crystal August 2, 2010 at 10:49 am | | Reply

    And the paradox is that when they do LOVE – they suddenly forget this word 🙂

  5. Josh
    Josh October 31, 2010 at 7:02 pm | | Reply

    Im SOOOOOOOO glad I stumbled upon this. Just hours ago I had a female student send me an email wishing me a happy halloween and then signed “i love you.” I asked another teacher what I should do, and she suggested I should explain to her that in the West we reserve that for a bf/gf and close friends and family…. any other suggestions?

    Any help finding a chinese gf???? 🙂 I’m not playing the foreigner card either, I will never be someone’s novelty!

  6. Ms. Lewis
    Ms. Lewis May 12, 2011 at 10:39 pm | | Reply

    [Comment was removed because it contained hate speech]

  7. Blossom
    Blossom January 22, 2012 at 2:44 pm | | Reply

    Jocelyn, maybe the above comment requires deletion or strike-through?! Sigh… 🙁

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