Waiting to Say "I Love You" To a Chinese Boyfriend | Speaking of China

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  1. George
    George April 9, 2010 at 11:00 am | | Reply

    “It was after the first time he looked at me this way that we had our “I’m scared” conversation.”

    Scared of who? Public, tea-baggers, your family members, his family members? Or just simply scared?

  2. rhiannon
    rhiannon April 9, 2010 at 10:01 pm | | Reply

    Love your advice as usual, you are a really insightful person!
    My hubby doesn’t say I love you very often, and his parents have never said the words to him.
    .-= rhiannon´s last blog ..Hmmmmmm =-.

  3. Justin Liu
    Justin Liu April 12, 2010 at 4:57 am | | Reply

    Great story and great advice from Jocelyn. I think my parents can relate a little bit. My dad works in St. Louis MO and my mom works in Canada. They have been married close to 25 years now and they both are dedicated to their work but also hate living apart. They make it work somehow.

  4. 路易师傅
    路易师傅 April 12, 2010 at 9:02 am | | Reply

    Is this guy Chinese or American? Did he move to the U.S. or does he just not look like the men in your family?
    You should not smother your American boyfriend because he obviously doesn’t have time for a massive relationship. Why can’t he find time to come see you anyway? The first thing you mentioned after detailing your recent big breakup was the fact that you have money problems. Interesting.

  5. melanie gao
    melanie gao April 14, 2010 at 7:10 am | | Reply

    Jocelyn I love these couples that I get to “meet” through your advice posts. I’m rooting for this couple too, I hope things work out for them.

    My Chinese boyfriend totally threw me for a loop by telling me he loved me very early on in our relationship. I mean, I knew I loved him within the first hour after I met him but I was afraid to say it too soon. But he’s so open and speaks straight from the heart, so he told me he loved me as soon as it felt natural for him.
    .-= melanie gao´s last blog ..Do I need a breathalizer for playdates now? =-.

  6. Michelle
    Michelle May 2, 2010 at 9:15 pm | | Reply

    Scared would be, afraid to open up our hearts again after having them broken–scared of rushing it all so fast and not enjoying what we have now. Scared of being hurt again.

    Money–money would just be a huge concern for me. I have a lot of financial stress and pressure, and that’s something I feel I need to work out before I jump into a big relationship. I want to be able to take care of myself, and the person I love if needed, not to be a burden.

    He was born in China, been in the US 20 years, and has completely stolen my heart. I hope that our story will turn out well.

  7. Michelle
    Michelle July 6, 2010 at 8:13 am | | Reply

    Well, it’s been 6 months and I couldn’t be happier.

    The two of us took a short break from one another, to relieve the pressure and make sure that we knew what we were getting into. While we stayed in touch, and saw one another occasionally, we really kind of cooled it off for about a month. In that time we decided that all we really wanted was to be together. So, we started dating once again, and our conversations became deeper, and our time together grew longer and more often. Now we are together ALL the time!

    As of yesterday we officially became a “couple” and my love for him continues to grow. He has now met my family too, and that makes me very happy as well. I think I will marry this man one day, I feel it in my heart <3 <3 <3 If that does happen, Jocelyn you are SO invited!

    Just wanted to share that with you all, because I love reading stories from everyone else as well 🙂

  8. Michelle
    Michelle October 25, 2010 at 10:15 pm | | Reply

    He loves me!

    [Insert cheering, leaping, painfully huge smiles, pounding & racing & fluttering hearts, fireworks…a general cacaphony of joy!!!!]

    So, yesterday, in such a moment of shock and pure joy, my amazing boyfriend told me he loved me. After a few moments of stunned silence, I broke into uncontrollable tears of happiness. I sobbed like an absolute fool. I’ve never been so happy in my life! He was so concerned at my crying, but I just started laughing, hahahaha…I must have confused him like crazy, hahahaha.

    Words cannot describe the profound depth of feeling I have for this man, and to know that he returns my affections means that I am the luckiest woman in the galaxy!

    I have never heard a more beautiful sound, than the words “I love you.” from his beautiful lips. I have been replaying that moment in my head over and over for hours and I never get tired.



  9. Vyara Gylsen
    Vyara Gylsen November 9, 2010 at 10:40 am | | Reply

    Really happy for you Michelle! Sweet times!

    I hope to be in your shoes one day = D

  10. Michelle
    Michelle November 30, 2010 at 7:17 pm | | Reply

    Yay! Yay! Yay! Oh man, if he knew about this blog he’d probably die, hahaha. But I am just so happy I had to tell you guys <3

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