Interview with JT Tran & Alice about New E-Book "Online Dating For Asian Men" | Speaking of China

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  1. D-Maybe
    D-Maybe September 5, 2014 at 10:53 am | | Reply

    That “Creepy White Guys” site is cool. There is also a site for something of a female equivalent of the creepy white guy:

    With regard to the point about fobby men doing better than expected, many white women with a stated preference for Asian men actually seek out Asian fobs or Asian men in Asia because they’re perceived as being more authentically Asian. This of course is a cruel twist of irony for Westernised Asian men who have suffered discrimination and rejection by the mainstream society all their lives for being Asian only to find that they’re now not Asian enough for the women who do like Asian men.

    I’m also curious about whether there’s any data on the quality of women (in terms of appearance, education, and occupation) that responded to the various profiles and openers tested in the study.

    1. Manny
      Manny September 10, 2014 at 6:48 am | | Reply

      @ D-Maybe.

      The site named “Euthenize All White People” is so offensive and derogatory to white folks. Imagine that a site with a name such as “Euthenize All Chinese People” and how much of a controversy it will cause. The Asians will take up arms. So, it sounds as though “reverse hatred” is acceptable.

  2. Susan Blumberg-Kason
    Susan Blumberg-Kason September 6, 2014 at 8:12 pm | | Reply

    Great interview! I haven’t done online dating in more than 11-12 years, but wonder about the value of a dedicated Asian site like how Jewish folks have JDate.

  3. D-Maybe
    D-Maybe September 7, 2014 at 8:45 am | | Reply

    @Jocelyn, thanks.

    @Susan, we kind of already have sites dedicated to dating Asian men. There are a number of online forums that are designed to facilitate AMWF (and AMBF) relationships, and what happens on these forums is that you get a large number of male members with a small number of female members. These site don’t seem to be very effective for setting up long-term relationships.

    From what I’ve gathered, most of the AMWF successes online seem to be a result of friendships formed on language/cultural exchange sites.

  4. Bruce
    Bruce September 9, 2014 at 1:45 am | | Reply

    WTH! Yes, work on your appearance and dress nice would help. Please do work out. I told you guys many times normally is the first impression that will attract women. Sorry, I haven’t been online for a while. Remember that maintaining a relationship and getting a date are two different things.

  5. D-Maybe
    D-Maybe September 10, 2014 at 11:43 am | | Reply

    @Manny… It’s unfortunate that you’re offended by the name of that site. I believe the name is deliberately provocative to reflect the kind of language that is often used by white people in reference to people of colour. If it makes you feel any better, the site was formerly known as “Shoot All White People”; so it appears that the owner of the site has already made concessions and he is not insensitive to the sensibilities of people such as yourself. Perhaps you could contact the owner about your concerns — he seems like a nice guy.

  6. Bruce
    Bruce September 10, 2014 at 12:22 pm | | Reply

    I think I should post my pictures on websites and see if I ‘ll get some hits or not. lol. one shirtless , one with shirt , one with suits and one carrying a machine guns and a handgun . 45 and carrying a deer behind shoulder for 1500 ft . Here’s my point. A picture tells a thousand stories so you don’t know if he/she will be a match for you. I guess people don’t care anyway. They just want attractions!!! I’m Chinese but not your typical guy you see everyday .. lol

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