A Chinese boyfriend/Chinese husband and foreign woman 30 years ago, through "Son of the Revolution" | Speaking of China

10 Responses

  1. Don Tai
    Don Tai November 23, 2009 at 9:06 am | | Reply

    Thanks for a very intriguing writeup. I’ll certainly read Son of the Revolution. Mixed marriages in a homogeneous culture always sparks curiosity at the very least. Here in Canada it rarely gets more than a casual yawn.

  2. lawrence clingman
    lawrence clingman November 24, 2009 at 10:51 am | | Reply

    Hey, this is a really touching piece. I’m just learning about Chinese culture really, and I can’t imagine falling in love with a Chinese woman, just because of how different I imagine it to be. But I’m sure in the right circumstances it could, and obviously does happen. It’s so beautiful when it does. Cool! All the best to you. ill check out this blog more often.

  3. Sarah Jane
    Sarah Jane November 25, 2009 at 9:58 am | | Reply

    It would be interesting to find out if Judy and Liang are still together.

  4. melanie gao
    melanie gao November 26, 2009 at 5:47 am | | Reply

    What a great story!

  5. J
    J November 29, 2009 at 5:04 pm | | Reply

    I think you are right about there will be more Chinese men marrying foreign women. People understand people from different countries and backgrounds much better than they used to be. I have not got a chance to read the book you mentioned. But it is worth to point out that even Chinese marriages in those days are very complicated and politically influenced rather than a simple love story.

  6. lhamo
    lhamo December 16, 2009 at 9:52 pm | | Reply

    They moved to the States in the early ’80s, and I am pretty sure I remember reading somewhere that they got divorced — I was pretty dissillusioned after hearing that, as I enjoyed the book as well! Thankfully, not all cross-cultural marriages are doomed, and not everybody ends up going to the U.S. My husband and I are about to celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary, both families are totally accepting and wonderful as inlaws, and we have two great bilingual, bicultural kids.

    By the time we married in 1996, it wasn’t such an unusual thing. But we did get a show made about us by the local television station when we went back for the local wedding in the summer of 1997.

  7. Chris
    Chris May 11, 2010 at 4:24 am | | Reply

    “Westerners marry and divorce just for the fun of it,”

    Someone’s been watching too much hollywood..

  8. Jin Feng
    Jin Feng January 17, 2011 at 4:09 pm | | Reply

    Indeed, a very interesting, relevant and touching write up, brought tears to my eyes.

  9. Xinnie
    Xinnie January 29, 2011 at 1:09 pm | | Reply

    It seems that in the world Asian man-Western woman–couples are rare, but I’ve grown up in a Chinese-Western family.
    My grandmother (Finnish) met my grandfather (Chinese) in the 40’s. They had two sons, my uncle and my dad. When they lived in China, my grandfather was accused for being “rebellious” and not faithful to his country and during the Cultural Revolution, he was sent to some concentration/work camp. My grandmother was accused of being a spy and she was house arrested for years. But they have stayed by each others sides for almost 70 years. Now they are both 94 years old, living in Finland, still happily married.

    When it comes to “mixing” in my family, my mom (full out blond white person) married my dad. And eventually I ended up marrying a Korean(-American) man.

    I lost the idea why I was writing this reply, but I had a really good point in my mind at first. 😀

  10. Darth Vader
    Darth Vader February 16, 2015 at 8:23 am | | Reply

    You really should learn a bit more about this story…… Judy Shapiro took a “proprietary interest” in Liang Heng. She brought him to the US and marketed him. In the 1980s it was commonplace to hear China experts refer to poor Liang as “Judy Shapiro’s Chinaman”! The whole thing was tawdry. Shapiro was his “manager”. But by the end of the 1980s things had changed in China, with the rise of a new student movement and new realities on the ground. People no longer wanted to pay to hear about how Liang had suffered decades earlier as a child. And the market for Cultural Revolution memoirs also got glutted, with numerous other and much more interesting books than “Son of the Revolution”. Judy cut her losses. Word has it that she was banging guys left and right long before she dumped Liang, though. A real love story, huh?

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