China Blogs by Western Women who Love Chinese Men | Speaking of China

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  1. Hao Hao Report March 15, 2010 at 12:09 am |
  2. American Family
    American Family March 15, 2010 at 7:20 am | | Reply

    I am married to a Chinese/Taiwanese American man. We have one daughter adopted from China and one daughter born to us. I have been blogging about our family life for the past six years. I blog less about the cultural issues now that our girls are so big, but it still comes up from time to time…especially when we visit with my mother in law (heh!).

  3. Impacted Wisdom Truth
    Impacted Wisdom Truth March 15, 2010 at 10:46 pm | | Reply

    There is one called Musing Mandarin that I believe fits your request:

  4. Priscilla
    Priscilla March 16, 2010 at 12:53 am | | Reply

    Hey Jocelyn,

    Do you by any chance have a list of blog written by Asian Women who love Western Men? It is so hard to find them.

  5. Priscilla
    Priscilla March 16, 2010 at 12:59 am | | Reply

    Please add the letter s to the end of the word ‘blog’ in the comment above. LOL. It was a typo.

  6. Jessica
    Jessica March 16, 2010 at 1:22 am | | Reply

    Thanks for the shoutout Jocelyn! In my own blogroll there are a lot of blogs by foreign women living in Japan with Japanese husbands, you might check some of them out sometime. For whatever reason, there seem to be a lot more Western women married to local men in Japan than in China, but a lot of our experiences are (shhh, don’t tell the Japan-phobic husbands) very similar.

  7. Robert
    Robert March 16, 2010 at 11:03 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn, I am a Canadian-born Chinese currently going to school at University of Toronto in Canada. I have to say that this article is quite a surprise for me! Of course, I have seen both Chinese Women/Western Man and Western Woman/Chinese Man couples, although based on my experiences here in Canada, I have always thought the former combination was far more common. It makes me really happy to see a foreigner take such a positive interest in Chinese culture, with all this China bashing in the news I have a hard time convincing my western friends to do the same.

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  9. Jason
    Jason March 18, 2010 at 7:43 am | | Reply

    Do you know of a Taiwanese actor named 王少伟

    You should look him up….your husband looks EXACTLY like him.

    I mean…EXACTLY.

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  11. Juliet
    Juliet March 26, 2010 at 2:41 am | | Reply

    I wanted to tell you about my blog as well. It is called Too Real To Be Mythical. My husband contributes occasionally as well. I haven’t yet been picked up on the blogosphere’s radar, sadly.

  12. Juliet
    Juliet March 27, 2010 at 11:10 pm | | Reply

    Thank you very much for the add!

  13. Alexis
    Alexis April 2, 2010 at 6:10 pm | | Reply

    I just wanted to say, I have ONLY ever been attracted to Asian men. I lived in and speak Thai, I have had bf’s but for the most part the “parents” of the Chinese (Cantonese men and Taiwanese are my preference–and yes I can even tell region they are from) are usually really hostile to the relationship.

    I love Asian skin, hair, the facial features, culture, name it. I actually think that my mother cheated on my Dad and I am part Asian. I have black hair, and semi-Asiatic features which would explain a lot. Anyone know a good place for a girl in FL to meet a hot Asian guy that is open to a white/asian relation please let me know.

  14. Alexis
    Alexis April 2, 2010 at 6:13 pm | | Reply

    PS—me an my shih tzus are ready to move anywhere for the right guy. I can learn chinese easily (I speak a lot of languages) and I am just looking for a nice and good looking chinese guy. I am not into Japanese usually and Korean, sorry. Other Asians can apply 😉

  15. Alexis
    Alexis April 3, 2010 at 6:59 pm | | Reply

    Mmmgoi or Xixi depending on dialect Jocelyn. The first love of my life was half Taiwanese. I have always had this thing with Asians. It is really hard where I live, there are just not many Asians and when I lived in Asia a lot of mothers were vehemently opposed to a non-Asian woman in their son’s lives. I look quite Asian though which is strange, (like a half breed) and some mother’s, with inevitably older or not so attractive sons, were eager to fix me up with their sons. In the west a lot of Asians, older especially, will just speak to me in Chinese which I find strange because I am caucasian but as stated in an earlier post, think I have some Asian in me somewhere because I do have very Asiatic features and preferences.

    Thank you for your wishes! Hopefully I will find him!

  16. Jo Gan
    Jo Gan April 28, 2010 at 5:06 am | | Reply

    I love reading your blogs and this one was very interesting. I will be sure to visit some of these sites. Please add my blog to your list…
    I am also married to a Chinese man .. however.. I am African-American and living in China.. an even more rare occurance. Keep up the good work.

  17. Stephen
    Stephen May 11, 2010 at 9:40 am | | Reply

    TO Alexis:
    why not move to china? 🙂

  18. Jo Gan
    Jo Gan June 18, 2010 at 6:37 pm | | Reply

    Thanks for the addition girlfriend… and as always you enlighten, encourage and impress…much love and respect..
    Double Happiness to you both…..

  19. Alexis
    Alexis June 19, 2010 at 6:43 am | | Reply

    Stephen you know what I find–and I lived in Thailand and mostly liked the Norther or more “Chinese” extracted Thai and there it is not hard to find someone, but I found in China typically “good families” (and I know this is a sweeping generalisation) will be very opposed to a white girl in the family and often Chinese men are very oblivious to over flirtation. It is almost like you need to send an invitation.

  20. Alexis
    Alexis June 23, 2010 at 6:19 am | | Reply

    Jocelyn, on the flirting, the guys just do not seem to suspect it. It is very strange, it is like the girls are all prepared and the men feel like if they see a foreign woman they should look in shame the other way. I personally prefer their musculature, their leaner bodies (generally) their more chiselled features, their hairlessness, generally, their tight pores, and I can go on. The IRONY is that they are NOT known to treat other Asian girls right but my experience has always been good. The Thai, The Vietnamese, Myanmarese (look very much like Chinese) all are very eager to be with a white girl, the Chinese themselves have prejudices—but I suppose we found a group of girls here without these, call us “chinophiles?” unfortunately with 1 billion it is like needles in haystacks to find a group of them.

  21. Suzy
    Suzy August 31, 2010 at 2:04 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn,

    I’ve often been attracted to Chinese men here in the UK but I never thought for a nano second they’d be interested in a Westerner – purely for cultural reasons. I know very little about Chinese culture so thanks to your blog I am learning a little more.

    I did find a hilarious article written by a Welsh chinese guy on a UK dating site – he said he loves women of all cultures, but he’s wary of the ones who only want to date him for free chips (he runs a chip shop!).

    With best wishes
    Suzy (UK)

  22. Elise
    Elise January 13, 2011 at 12:03 am | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn,
    I just discovered your post about western women/asian men’s blogs!!! Thanks for talking about my blog!
    I moved to Beijing last June, and I started a new blog. I now mostly blog about cultural differences in child rearing, as I’m a new mom and I’m trying to find a happy medium between Chinese tradition and Western ways! Thank heavens my man is not traditional and my MIL is not involved at all in our family!!! 🙂
    Two more blogs worth checking out: Canadian woman married to a Taiwanese man, with two lovely children. American woman married to a Taiwanese man, also mom to two cutties!

  23. peter jiang-learn mandarin
    peter jiang-learn mandarin February 2, 2011 at 1:02 pm | | Reply

    Hello all, Thank you a lot because you love China and Chinese men. In this concern, learning Mandarin Chinese will be helpful for all of you. Best wishes.

  24. Emily
    Emily February 18, 2011 at 5:01 am | | Reply

    I’m so glad I came across this site! I’m a New Zealand woman married to a Hong Kong/New Zealand Chinese man, living in Singapore (after a short stint in Taiwan). I very rarely come across the Asian Guy/White Girl mix and so I’m so excited about reading what you have all written. Just to share one little thing – I changed my surname when I got married, so I now have a Chinese one, and I get such a kick when I see people’s reactions to me when they are expecting to meet a CHinese woman. It’s brilliant – especially at job interviews 🙂

  25. Grace
    Grace February 24, 2011 at 4:05 pm | | Reply


    You will really enjoy Singapore…a tolerant and welcoming society though with very strict laws which are enforced!

  26. melanie gao
    melanie gao March 8, 2011 at 7:52 am | | Reply

    Jocelyn what a sweet way to describe me and my blog – thank you!!! I’m so honored to be included on this list. We’re lucky to have these wonderful Chinese men in our lives, aren’t we?

    Hugs to you, Twin Sister!

  27. john
    john April 15, 2011 at 9:34 pm | | Reply
  28. Eric
    Eric May 23, 2011 at 8:55 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn, your blog is an eye opener for me. I was so sure that there are no more white girls who’s interested in Asian men. I am a 30 yo asian man, Chinese descent who was born in different Asian country, who is dreaming to marry a white girl. By moving to USA, I thought my chance of marrying a white girl will be higher. I was wrong. It is a tough market for me here, I guess partly because I don’t play by local’s dating rules….. 🙁
    But your blog has proven me wrong because there are white girls who are falling in love with chinese men and proud of it. I hope soon I’ll find my own princess.

  29. Jenny Lin
    Jenny Lin August 15, 2011 at 6:09 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn, I thought I posted before but don’t see it here. I think we know each other somehow but I can’t remember how – were you at Smallworld? Or Candle? Anyway, love your site, so nice to find a meeting of like lives and loves. I blog (somewhat irregularly) about my life with three small kids and a Chinese husband in Beijing at Keep up the good work! Jenny

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  31. Ellie
    Ellie February 15, 2012 at 1:10 am | | Reply

    I am a white woman married to a Chinese man, who appreciated finding this site about women in China, I am so sick of the trite and hostile comments on the Internet about Chinese men versus white men, I just put up a new website,…Mrs. Wong Says: Chinese Men Are As Sexy As Western Men…! Hope others enjoy it!

    I have another larger site on this and many other topics, though just wanted to get going joining this discussion….

  32. Bruce
    Bruce February 15, 2012 at 9:17 am | | Reply


    Now finally another White woman thinks those sterotypes are not true! Some Chinese women are just bad. Sometimes, we have to get a mirror and take a good look at ourselves before we talk bad about our own race and other races. If you want to know more about something, you have to have friends who are from that race and you have to participate in EVERYTHING that they do in order to understand why. The more you’re involved, the more you will know that those things are not true. 2 to 3 times a night??? what an animal!!!! lol 🙂 you are very lucky :).. Yes, I’ve tried 2-3 times a night before and now I still want 2 -3 times a night. Another close Chinese friend of mine wanted 3 to 4 times a day. 🙂

  33. Cherry Blossom
    Cherry Blossom March 17, 2012 at 10:38 am | | Reply

    I’ve known about this website for a while, and used to come by here and check now and again. I’d like to post up my story in one of my blogs, but I’m somewhat shy about exposing my personal life too much, and rather private.

    My story is amazing, in my view, because it all happened when I least expected it, and thank God that I chose to listen to my gut feeling. At first, I was having doubts about dating him because of his cynical attitude. But I knew, somehow, that this attitude was just a mask resulted from some negative experiences in his past. Despite my repulsion, I decided to look past the surface and keep going for it. THANK GOD I did not give up! He turned out to be the best man in the world. He treats me so well, I never imagined I would have such a luck to meet such a wonderful man. I feel so safe and loved with him, it’s beyond description. His family also accepted me without any difficulty. And they all are also very caring with me. He is Chinese, but born and raised in Germany. His parents are from Hong Kong. I feel so blessed and, despite that he is the eldest son in the family, and I am Caucasian, his parents have been very accepting and loving with me from the start. It’s amazing how well he and I fit together. Didn’t expect this, but I found the love of my life and I feel fullfilled.

  34. BRUCE
    BRUCE March 20, 2012 at 3:27 pm | | Reply

    Chemistry and trust go hand in hand here. Chinese men tend to be very devoted in a trusted relationship. Why do you think most of us let our Chinese women “monitor” our bank accounts? I advise everyone who found love of your life to hold onto him tight. very hard for another men just like this to come by again.

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  36. Chris
    Chris October 23, 2014 at 2:57 pm | | Reply

    Could you update this list? Seems many links don’t work or the blogs haven’t been updated in years. Cheers.

  37. mercy
    mercy July 21, 2015 at 8:23 pm | | Reply

    hey guys am looking for a chinese it possible i a kenyan

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