For China's Youth, Money Often Trumps Love in Marriage | Speaking of China

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  1. Roadblock
    Roadblock October 5, 2009 at 12:19 am | | Reply

    It is a unfortunate fact that there are too many gold diggers in China. Back in the old day, We Chinese practiced male polygamy. Every gold digger could marry rich. So everyone was happy. But now rich man are forced to be unfaith to their wives, and gold diggers cannot find husbands. A combination of excessive number of gold diggers and forced monogamy by law can only entail disfunctional families and undesirable social dynamics. This is the reason why you see so many illegal mistresses (二奶), and so many Chinese women married to western men.

    On the other hand, gold diggers are not necessarily bad. There are two types of them: shopaholics and misers. The first type is terrible. But the second type is the woman behind every married, financially successful man.

  2. Mao mao
    Mao mao October 7, 2009 at 7:20 am | | Reply

    No. The reason Chinese women are marrying western husbands is that Chinese men is lousy! They cheat, drink, are to proud, lazy, smokes and ar cheaop! Western guys is generos, caring, loving GOOD lovers, well educated and so on. Chinese men (most of them) are little emperors, ther momy spoiled them.

  3. Roadblock
    Roadblock October 7, 2009 at 7:56 am | | Reply

    I’ve got the reports and surveys that confirm my claim. Where is yours?

    The truth may be hard to swallow, but it’s the truth. There are too many greedy Chinese women who marry for the money. And you should think it this way: The gold-diggers used to eye rich foreign men, but are now turning their attention to Chinese men. The Chinamen are becoming their prey. So it’s terrible news for Chinese man. But white men with yellow fever will more likely find true love, rather than gold diggers. So this is great news for you to accept. (I take it that you are not Chinese.)

  4. Michael Haggqvist
    Michael Haggqvist October 7, 2009 at 6:04 pm | | Reply

    Oh I hate racial stereotypes…. “Chinese men are…” No that´s not rue! Some might be, of course, but not all Chinese men. My Chinese brother in law is a kind, well educated, handsome etc a dream for most every Chinese and western women. Still he has been left by 2 girlfriends that fell for some Caucasian guys. Money was n´t the issue since he is pretty well of.

    There are some bad Chinese men, but there are just as many bad western men. Many of my Russian female friends says that all Russian men drink and cheat, is this true? No, that is only their personal experience.

    I wish we all could move beyond race and only see the personality. Did I fall in love with my wife because she is Chinese? No! I did so because she is a wonderful person!

    The only race is the human race.

    That said, I agree with roadblock about his thoughts about gold diggers. I have seen many beautiful Chinese girls with old, fat Chinese men. True love? Might be! Just like it might be true love when you see CHinese girls with old, fat western guys…. But I do tend to think about gold diggers… just like I would if I saw that in my country…

    Fontsky: why write in russian? Who do you think would understand you?

  5. Roadblock
    Roadblock October 7, 2009 at 7:44 pm | | Reply

    We are not talking about race or international marriage, are we? Or at least we shouldn’t do it here. Maybe Mao mao and Michael should move their dialogue (or his monologue, if they are the same person) to that other popular post on this topic. And I think the reports I cited would shed light on that other discussion as well.

    Now let’s not get off track here. Back on the topic of gold-diggers, I understand that there is some negative connotation, or even stigma, attached to that term. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with calling people what they are. A moron is a moron. Calling him by multisyllabic euphemisms such as “mentally challanged” does not change that fact. Calling a lady the term for female dog, on the other hand, is offensive at a completely different level, and indeed severely insulting, because a human is not in fact a dog. And, by the way, I’m just a dude on the internet. Do I really have to be as PC as a bible salesman or a career politician?

    Furthermore, the criterion for gold-digger is based on motive. Whether that motive is justified by the circumstance is a different issue. And gold-diggers are typically thought of as astute and calculative. The fact that they marry with careful planning and foresight only reinforces my judgement.

  6. Michael Haggqvist
    Michael Haggqvist October 7, 2009 at 7:53 pm | | Reply

    Dear roadblock: I am Michael no one else…. You could ask the webmaster to check the i.p if you don´t believe me….
    I defended Chinese men against Mao maos attach, thats all I did. O.k? I agreed with your report. So I don´t understand your reaction. Relax “dude” as you would put it…..

  7. Michael Haggqvist
    Michael Haggqvist October 10, 2009 at 2:01 am | | Reply

    I think that Chinese girls are turning their attention from white men AND Chinese men to something new: black men…


  8. Kevin
    Kevin October 22, 2009 at 1:18 pm | | Reply

    Wow Micael, those are very sick comments they said about her and him in that link. Those two people may have been acting immature but do things like “they took our babes, we should take their too” is necessary? I know you didn’t write those commons Michael but those commons on that link are so upsetting.

    Racism will end when people stop trying to preserve their race.

  9. Roadblock
    Roadblock October 22, 2009 at 2:56 pm | | Reply

    Very sound reasoning, Kevin.

    Regionalism will end when people stop trying to preserve their region.
    Nepotism will end when people stop trying to preserve their family.
    Cronyism will end when people stop trying to preserve their friendship.
    Male chauvinism will end when people stop trying to preserve their masculinity.
    Heterosexism will end when people stop trying to preserve their heterosexuality.
    Egoism will end when people stop trying to preserve themselves.

    So let’s all try to be self-destructive. If people stop trying to preserve their race, and if one race wipes out all other races, there could not possibly be any racism. So you see, the Nazis were not trying to promote racism, they were only trying to end racism by ending all other races.

  10. v
    v October 24, 2009 at 5:43 am | | Reply

    i think generally speaking chinese culture has a long way to go in terms of people knowing how to treat each other with compassion and respect. if you have never seen a relationship close up within your own family that exhibited compassion and respect, you probably won’t know how to act that way, and you won’t value those qualities either. and what is the root of love if not compassion and respect? if you don’t value those qualities, then what is there to value about marriage?: security and status, ergo: money becomes of primary importance.

  11. Dan
    Dan July 24, 2010 at 1:21 pm | | Reply

    To v: Chinese culture have a long way to go in terms of treating each other with compassion and respect??!! Do you even know anything about Chinese culture?? Chinese culture is nothing but about compassion and respect!! It is Western culture that show no respect, they are arrogant and think they know what best for others. American government is always commenting about how other countries government should behave when their own country people are going around shooting at each other and your stupid government still think it is ok for everyday folk to own a gun. Show some respect to other culture and do some research before you make a comment!!

  12. dansnottheman
    dansnottheman June 7, 2011 at 11:02 am | | Reply

    that’s right dan, chinese have soooooo much compassion dont you lol, what with your public executions, and cheating asses ‘everywhere’ lol.

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