Fans of “Into the Badlands” star Daniel Wu may know he married fellow American Lisa Selesner, who is white and Asian (she has a French and Chinese father). And while that makes their marriage interracial, that’s not the reason I’m digging these two lovebirds.
First off, she’s taller than him, just like me and Jun. Sure, they’re only separated by a couple of centimeters, but still – it’s nice to see a couple that looks more like my own relationship than, say, Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman (who were, incidentally, our original “models” when we first started dating).
The real explanation for why I’m loving these two – especially Lisa – is based on her response to a reporter, who pointed out she was shorter than then-boyfriend Daniel Wu. Here’s what the report said (which I’ve translated from Chinese into English):
She immediately clarified she was taller than her boyfriend. But she never cared about her boyfriend’s height, and even dared to use it as a positive sexual metaphor. “From my experience, there’s no difference in bed between a man who is 170 cm tall and one who is 190 cm tall.” She also playfully remarked that, although Guo Fucheng (Aaron Kwok) is “small”, “he doesn’t have a problem in bed.”
It’s much like what I wrote in Three Inches of Separation: On Loving a Shorter Chinese Man: “that the greatness of a Chinese man isn’t measured in inches.”
P.S.: For those of you interested, Daniel Wu and Lisa Selesner tied the knot in South Africa, as chronicled in this piece posted by Daniel himself. He wrote, “On April 6th, 2010 Lisa and I were married in a beautiful forest in South Africa. It was a very very special ceremony. The energy and love that we felt was very intense and amazing. I will never forget that day!”
Photo of Daniel Wu: By Gage Skidmore, CC BY-SA 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=41619488
Photo of Lisa Selesner: By Crossroads Foundation Photos – https://www.flickr.com/photos/crossroads_foundation/5820591838/in/photostream, CC BY 2.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=17639702