On my first funeral in China, and the loss of my first close Chinese family member | Speaking of China

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  1. Nicki Chen
    Nicki Chen June 9, 2014 at 7:47 am | | Reply

    My condolences on the loss of your Chinese grandfather. Such a cheerful looking man. Your “sense of dread” is natural. But it’s good you’re going to the funeral. It’s a ceremony that helps us face the unhappy reality of death and at the same time lend our support to other mourners.

  2. lenore look
    lenore look June 9, 2014 at 7:54 am | | Reply

    Dear Joss and John,

    My deepest condolences on your loss. I’m so sorry.

  3. Eileen黃愛玲
    Eileen黃愛玲 June 9, 2014 at 9:58 am | | Reply

    I’m deeply sorry. My condolences on your loss. Truly.

  4. Marta
    Marta June 9, 2014 at 10:11 am | | Reply

    I am so sorry for your loss, Jocelyn and John. I think grandparents are a big influence in one’s life. We have to cherish the moments we get to share with them.

  5. Lina
    Lina June 9, 2014 at 10:12 am | | Reply

    I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you two can hang on in this tough time, especially John.

  6. Nina 妮娜
    Nina 妮娜 June 9, 2014 at 10:50 am | | Reply

    Dear Jocelyn! My prayers and Sympathies for you and John in this great loss… I’d say that the love and memory you guys have for grandpa will be the strength that you will need for living this hard process….

  7. Lauren
    Lauren June 9, 2014 at 1:20 pm | | Reply

    Big hug, Jocelyn.

    Sending you all my love and condolences. xxx

  8. marghini
    marghini June 9, 2014 at 1:44 pm | | Reply

    I am sorry to hear you have to deal with such a sad moment of life. Loosing people we care about is always the toughest time in life, no matter how prepared we thought we were. My condolences to you and your family.

  9. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories June 9, 2014 at 3:41 pm | | Reply

    I’m sorry to hear that you and John lost your grandfather and your grandmother lost her husband. I’m sending you my deepest condolences.

  10. o
    o June 10, 2014 at 12:02 am | | Reply

    My condolences to you and John. Stay strong. I wasn’t close to my own paternal grandpa, much less my paternal grandma, but I still remember him for the times he used to bring me along to the local wet markets where he used to sell the produce he grew and then we would go for some food and I especially loved the curry mee soup we used to enjoy. Sometimes, he would slip some money to me and as a small kid then, it thought that was so much. I knew he loved me even though he never said so because that’s just Chinese. You will have all the family members and relatives to help you guys get through the funeral and the grieving. Just reassure you beloved grandma. Take care.

  11. Rdm
    Rdm June 10, 2014 at 12:30 am | | Reply

    My deep condolences to you Jocelyn. I remember the time when my grandpa passed away. Nice to see those pictures in him working for a winter hat.

  12. Manny
    Manny June 10, 2014 at 7:45 am | | Reply

    @ Jocelyn.

    My deepest condolences to you and John’s family.

  13. MM
    MM June 10, 2014 at 11:43 am | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn

    Sending pray and thoughts to “grand mother”, you , john and all his family members.

    Take care

  14. HadiSS
    HadiSS June 11, 2014 at 1:44 am | | Reply

    My condolence for you and your husband. May comfort always be with you during this hard time.

  15. Timo
    Timo June 11, 2014 at 2:53 am | | Reply

    My condolence for you both. I never had grandparents as all of them passed away before I was born so I don’t have experienced the pain of losing someone close yet.
    It was great to see his pictures here as they show how happy and focused he was

  16. Tracy Slater
    Tracy Slater June 11, 2014 at 1:38 pm | | Reply

    Thinking of you and your family, Jocelyn. Was this the grandfather you wrote about in the Dragonfruit anthology? Either way, many condolences.

  17. Fred
    Fred June 12, 2014 at 12:14 am | | Reply

    Hi J.E.,
    I am deeply sorry to read about your in-law’s passing. I will keep you and John’s family in our prayers.

  18. Sveta
    Sveta June 12, 2014 at 3:21 pm | | Reply

    I’m sorry for yours and John’s loss, Jocelyn. Last time I experienced funerals was when I was a little girl back in Russia. My paternal grandparents, G-d rest their souls, passed away in Russia and although we were affected, my family didn’t attend the funerals. Few months back, my great-aunt, G-d rest her soul, passed away, and we went to a funeral Jewish style.

    I hope its okay, *hugs*

  19. Shanghai Ronin
    Shanghai Ronin June 16, 2014 at 3:34 am | | Reply

    Jocelyn, I’m very sorry for your loss. Seeing the picture of grandma and grandpa up there, sitting together so happily, really tugged at my heart. It will be difficult going through a funeral in a foreign country, but with John and his family by your side I know you’ll be fine. And from what I have read about your experiences with John and his family, I know grandma is in very good hands despite the recent loss. That’s the thing about Chinese families: They stick together and support one another no matter what.

    My prayers go out to you and John.

  20. Ri
    Ri June 28, 2014 at 3:47 am | | Reply

    I’m very sorry for your loss. Funerals are a heavy ordeal in any culture, but I hope you can give each other comfort in this time of sorrow.

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