Finding Friends With Married Chinese Women | Speaking of China

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  1. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian September 5, 2011 at 4:04 am | | Reply

    I think it is not just a Chinese thing. I think it is more a men’s thing. Men are generally not too bothered with “domestic” chores like packing up for a trip or arranging a wedding, even his own. But I really don’t know. I only know that among the Chinese people, boys are usually brought up not to do “girly” chores like washing dishes or ironing clothes or cooking. That was also my personal experience. My mum for example wouldn’t allow us boys to even iron our own clothes! But the same doesn’t apply to Malay families here. So, we do find for example that Malay boys and men can take care of themselves better, domestically speaking. And many of them can cook for themselves.

  2. BRUCE
    BRUCE September 5, 2011 at 10:55 am | | Reply

    In my Chinese family, my mom trained all the boys to cook for themselves including me. You are considered “useless” if you can’t be self efficient. When you translate the word “useless” in Chinese, it sounds funny but that’s the only word I can think of. Men have to know how to cook in this new era because both men and women work all the time so we have to adjust and help out with family chores. All men in my family can cook a mean dinner. We do everything from A to Z.

  3. Eileen
    Eileen September 5, 2011 at 11:28 am | | Reply

    I think it’s great to get to talk with female friends like that. =o)

    It depends on the person, really. I can’t say I relate at all. My husband actually planned the whole wedding. Not me. My husband picked where to get married, made an appointment to get my nails, hair, and make-up done before the wedding ceremony. My husband even helped me with the dress. =O haha. I picked the ring, though. I am all about the ruby..not diamonds. (hides)

  4. beaufortninja
    beaufortninja September 6, 2011 at 12:31 am | | Reply

    I don’t think that’s a Chinese thing at all. I’m planning my wedding with my fiancee now and try as I might, I just can’t get interested in choosing a table cloth design or what kind of desert will be served at the banquet. I suppose it’s just a guy thing. Let us worry about the really hard stuff like showing up for the wedding!

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