The Personal Side of Solving Personal Problems in China

13 Responses

  1. Jessica
    Jessica January 24, 2011 at 4:44 am | | Reply

    Taking bets on how soon before your mailbox blows up with requests to meet Caroline! 😉

  2. Sonja
    Sonja January 24, 2011 at 5:12 am | | Reply

    Here in Bosnia, people will go out of their way to make you feel awful about not being married by 30. If you’re also single past 30, you might as well be Frankenstein. But, I’m happy to report, more and more young women are fighting this attitude, and thinking more about being happy than simply getting married at any cost. Still, many people from the older generations (and sadly many people among the younger generations) think it’s impossible for a woman to be happy unless she’s married.

  3. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh January 24, 2011 at 11:11 am | | Reply


  4. Marcus
    Marcus January 24, 2011 at 1:04 pm | | Reply

    I started getting nagged by my family about marriage when I turned 30 and I’m an Asian American Male. I can imagine its 10 times worst as Asian female:)

  5. Crystal
    Crystal January 24, 2011 at 3:06 pm | | Reply

    How about making euphemism of euphemism?
    Your “situation” instead of “little problem” 🙂

  6. Sara
    Sara January 24, 2011 at 7:38 pm | | Reply

    Recently many guys have asked me to solve their personal problem, and find a girlfriend, better to be foreigner, for them. And yes, they are all Chinese guys. Unfortunately I haven’t done any successful match making yet, but maybe soon in the future.

    In the other side many Chinese people think that I have a personal problem because I chose the wrong guy! You know, I didn’t chase the most rich guy, but the most lovely/kind/good/nice guy. I guess this is supposed to be Chinese way of caring about me, but too much criticising will also mean that these people will soon have a problem with me as if the situation needs I can be honest back too.

    If I meet anyone that would suit your friend Caroline, I’ll let you know 😉

  7. Kath
    Kath January 25, 2011 at 8:44 am | | Reply

    A couple have, neither seem so worried about it. In fact one is convinced she can’t get married because her father was such a great husband for her mom that if she can’t find someone that meets those standards it isn’t on. Fair enough I say! Both are very successful, happy and fulfilled women and if they find a man, it’s merely icing on the cake 🙂

  8. Tiffany
    Tiffany January 25, 2011 at 9:22 am | | Reply

    I seem to remember that it is quite common now for the new generation of Chinese men/women to remain single until they feel they are “ready”. They seem to modeling after the western society to have career first then marriage, well, when it happens, it happens. Many of my cousins in Taiwan have not yet any prospect due to their own view of freedom. I am not sure if they will be spending so much effort in looking for that special someone?

  9. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh January 27, 2011 at 1:05 pm | | Reply

    No, not rly.
    I live in Mexico for God’s sake.

  10. Cheri Spain
    Cheri Spain March 15, 2011 at 4:36 pm | | Reply

    I my best friend is Japanese, she had the same “personal problem” but I introduced her to her current boyfriend. They have been dating for two years now.
    But this 41 year old Caucasian woman has this exact “personal problem” can you help me too?

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