My "hard-to-buy-for" Chinese father-in-law | Speaking of China

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  1. Nuria
    Nuria November 11, 2013 at 6:24 am | | Reply

    When I went to China to meet my parents in law I brought olives and raw meet (that we have raw for breakfast or dinner in Spain), and they were more than shocked when they saw that. So I’d recommend not to give any kind of food as a present.

    I’ve seen that Chinese tend to consider sparkling whatever (dresses, shoes, decoration,…) as nicer than regular ones. So anything comparable to a disco ball would be ok. But for the case that is explained in this post, I’d rather say that any plain and sober token would be better.

  2. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian November 11, 2013 at 7:40 am | | Reply

    I was thinking of a brush set for his calligraphy and painting work. But than, a pen might be a good alternative, especially an elegant and sturdy one, since your FIL also loves to write.

  3. IC
    IC November 11, 2013 at 8:38 am | | Reply

    Special food from USA (tu chan) would be good.

  4. Claire
    Claire November 11, 2013 at 12:27 pm | | Reply

    What is it with parents and letter openers… my Mum and Dad think they are the greatest gift of all. They could still get your father-in-law one and he can have it on display as a weird memento 😀

    It can be difficult to buy presents for people you know well never mind someone from the other side of the world. I have to make notes throughout the year when I think of an idea for birthdays, Christmas etc.

    1. Nicki Chen
      Nicki Chen November 11, 2013 at 2:21 pm | | Reply

      Claire, I admire you for making notes throughout the year. I wish I could make myself buy gifts all year long. Okay, I’ll keep working on it.

  5. Luc
    Luc November 11, 2013 at 1:26 pm | | Reply

    “the top three must-have gifts for the average American guy his age”

    @Jocelyn, I wonder what the top three must-haves are. Thanks 😀

  6. Lina
    Lina November 11, 2013 at 2:53 pm | | Reply

    I remember first meeting my in-laws and whenever I asked my husband what should I get them he responded with very clever ‘I don’t know’. Literally every single time. I also had to buy a gift for my sis in law. That was pain in the… butthole. In the end I got my dad in law a limited Euro2012 edition Polish Vodka, for mother in law I got a set of silver-amber bracelet and neckless (she later wore it on our wedding) – it was good because amber is not only ‘very Polish’ thing but also amber has some ‘magical’ work in Chinese medicine, also I got her German chocolates. For sis I got a bag with ‘modern-traditional’ Polish pattern, some sweets and phone charms with ‘Polish-English’ greetings – it was similar to this thing http://image.ceneo.pl/data/products/9152718/i-torba-na-zakupy-polska.jpg but with bit different pattern and it was black, I think they liked it. I hope! 🙂

  7. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories November 11, 2013 at 7:06 pm | | Reply

    My husband bought his father a watch when we were in Europe, but that was a rather expensive gift (the price wasn’t expensive for a watch, but it was expensive for a gift). He didn’t tell his father the price, otherwise he would have told us to give it back immediately, I guess.

    I always think it’s harder to buy gifts for my father than for my mother, but for my husband it’s the other way around. When we were in Europe there were so many things he wanted to get for his dad, but he found it really hard to find something for his mum. One other gift he bought for his dad was a wooden walking stick (it’s rather useful for his dad, but it might be taken as an offense if the person doesn’t need it).

  8. Laura
    Laura November 11, 2013 at 7:37 pm | | Reply

    Buying gifts is hard..I just wish there was no need of gifts, honestly!

    You know what was very successfull that my dad brought to China last time? cuban cigars (the ones that are big). Tony’s dad, brother in law, father of the brother in law, ,…they were all so interested in learning how to cut them, how to smoke them, how to stop them and how to storage them…! I was so surprised.

    He also brought some Spanish raw and the dad was eating it and loving it, till he asked how to cook it, we explained the whole process with salt, and he said…: No oil, no cooked! then told everyone to stop eating it but the rest just laughed and said..its a different procedure….! 😉

    If you bring some chinese food he will directly ask: how much? And whatever you say he will always say: this young people, too expensive! i pay X!

    @ China Elevator Stories,
    My father bought a nice watch for Tony for our wedding, as a personal gift for him. During the wedding banquet a friend of Tony wanted to take something personal from him and keep it till we finish a game. When he was taking the watch frim his wrist, the watch didn’t last too long in his friend’s hand, it ended up on the floor with the whole glass broken, a brand new watch, 2h old, quite expensive. And the friend was just laughing till he saw my dad’s face almost crying and saw me telling to him: this watch is a gift from my father to tony you MUST take care!
    The face of my dad was..Oh my..that watch lasted 2h..then I took it and fixed it one week after but not the same,…
    Some people should never ever have access to watches 🙂

  9. lenore look
    lenore look November 11, 2013 at 8:36 pm | | Reply

    Hi Joss, How ’bout sunscreen? Most Chinese villagers have never heard of such a thing and they’re the ones out in the sun the most. By the time they’re your fil’s age, if they haven’t died from skin cancer, their skin is leathery looking. I say, it’s never too late. You could start him on a good habit. And your mil will appreciate it too. She will also love a good moisturizer. Chinese ladies in general love foreign-brand skin care products. They don’t trust the Chinese brands for safety and quality. Anyway, not sentiment gift ideas, but practical — and the Chinese, as you know, show love in very practical ways. Hope this helps!

  10. Sveta
    Sveta November 14, 2013 at 11:10 pm | | Reply

    Hard to buy people in my life include my parents. My mom only wants everyone to be happy and isn’t a gift person. She doesn’t like receiving gifts. My dad is into technology and sometimes it feels as if I don’t know what he’d want.

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