Interview with Yuan Fu, the official translator for Speaking of China - 采访付远,《谈中国》的官方翻译 | Speaking of China

8 Responses

  1. Nicki Chen
    Nicki Chen March 20, 2015 at 7:38 am | | Reply

    Excellent interview! I really enjoyed hearing about Yuan in his own words. I wish him luck in finding the woman of his dreams.

  2. marghini
    marghini March 20, 2015 at 9:50 am | | Reply

    What a lovely guy! I really liked these answers as they are smart and weel-thought.

    I particularly enjoyed what you said about developing “soft skills” to attract a woman; in my opinion those soft skills are what any smart and considerate person should look for in a partner. Picking a partner goes well beyond physical and sexual attraction (which is of course still a component of it though!) and making a relationship work in the long run requires respect, trust, involvement and ability to support your partner’s goals and desire.

    You sound like you are the kind of person that would be willing to provide that, so I am sure it is just a matter of time soem great girl can see that! I am sure you will have no problem making Western girl fall in love with you, if that is what you want.

  3. Constance - Foreign Sanctuary
    Constance - Foreign Sanctuary March 20, 2015 at 10:08 am | | Reply

    What a great interview and his sense of humor shines through! I wish him all the luck in the world finding his Miss Right!

  4. Rdm
    Rdm March 21, 2015 at 11:41 am | | Reply

    “Objectively speaking, the vast majority of Asian men cannot compare to the tall stature of Western men. This is not worth complaining about nor is it racist, this is Darwin’s evolution. Because of this, I ask Chinese men to call upon their “soft power” in more superior areas, such as being more attentive to women or smarter.”

    If you’re reading this, Yuan Fu, you can enlighten in your blog in Chinese for all Chinese men out there.

    When you walk, walk like a man. when you talk, talk like a man. When you’re in a party, socialize like a man. I’ve seen several Asian men in birthday party, on the bus, in a car, on the street, you name it. They’re less than stellar, I must say. You wonder if I’m a foreigner. Nope, I’m ethnically Chinese, originally from Fujian, and migrated from China long time ago. But whenever I see those guys, I wanted to smack their heads and make them behave.

    Walk like a duckling, can’t have a nice conversation, instead staring at their smartphones in a party. Conversation works both way. No matter you are a good talker, at least there’s gotta be another one who can sustain the conversation. You need two persons to keep the conversation going. Light, funny, nothing serious kind of conversation. Chinese men? No way. I’ve been there. I improved myself. I tried to find a good topic to carry on. It works when you have someone with the same attitude. I tried that on Chinese guys, didn’t work, stopped after a small talk.

    It’s not only men, Chinese women too. Took a subway in Manhattan to Brooklyn, awful old Chinese women, 35-40 Chinese women with awful, awful manners. I hate to say I’m Chinese. But anyway if someone ask me, I’d proudly say I’m 华人。

    The other perspective for your view is Men like a woman with curves. But men don’t know how good their women will be once they get married. Now let’s turn our head and think about, why don’t Asian guys spend a little bit of time in the gym, work out, and be a man, instead of being a skinny guy and trying to be working on soft power? Girls also don’t know if the guys they’re interested are jerks or attentive. Let’s be real. Guys like girls most of the time on “love at first sight”. If girls are attracted to the guys with good looking stature, why don’t we work on that aspect? I rather work out, be confident than being able to make dumplings. Of course I’m making a joke here.

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    “Another example is when a guy is standing before someone from a developed country, we can be overcautious. Yet when we’re standing before friends from less developed countries than China, we can behave all high and mighty.”

    This is not only China, this happens to everyone on this earth.

    Put a white American guy and a British guy together on the same spot, and imagine what’d happen. Or maybe put Swedish guy and British guy on the bus stop together and see what happens.

    This mental complexity is not only applicable to Chinese, it’s the trait that all humans possess. The only admirable thing to do is try to be a gentleman, keep your heads up, not too arrogant, not too cocky, but also not cowering, not slouching.

  5. Dan
    Dan March 22, 2015 at 1:52 am | | Reply

    I would say be yourself. True confidence comes from competency. Build on your interests and develop in areas you consider important.
    Beyond cultural differences, girls from every ethnicities looking for a good relationship would appreciate courtesy, humor, authenticity, critical thinking, and modest or better career success.

    Practices make perfect. Put yourself out there to meet other women. I am sure there are some that will suit you. Remember to focus on what YOU want.

    Basic hygiene and grooming is a must.

  6. Ferguson
    Ferguson March 22, 2015 at 5:57 am | | Reply

    “Objectively speaking, the vast majority of Asian men cannot compare to the tall stature of Western men. This is not worth complaining about nor is it racist, this is Darwin’s evolution. Because of this, I ask Chinese men to call upon their “soft power” in more superior areas, such as being more attentive to women or smarter.”

    I wholly disagree with this. If you are going to generalize and put your own race down , don’t generalize it to ALL asian men. Stop having this attitude that Asian Men are not comparable to Western men. Because Western Men does not only include white men. It includes all the other races out there who live in these “Western countries”. I can’t believe I would hear this phrase from someone in China of all places. You don’t have to deal with all the racism or cultural conflicts of growing up in a White dominated country , yet you still harbor this attitude of “white people are superior”.

    This subtle self -racism is harmful. There is nothing Chinese men from China or outside china that isn’t comparable to others.

    1. marghini
      marghini March 22, 2015 at 1:00 pm | | Reply

      well said Ferguson!

  7. Sveta
    Sveta April 2, 2015 at 10:19 am | | Reply

    Congrats on getting an intereview on here Yuan Fu 😀 Glad to see your sense of humor is still alive haha

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