Racist Haters Will Hate – But Should We Always Blog About It?

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When my blogging friend sent me that link the other day, I didn’t even have to click to know where this was going. The URL contained a malicious slur, and the thread’s title included a vulgar phrase, something I’ve never stooped to utter in any conversation.

These were haters, pure and simple. Hardcore racists who scorned interracial relationships.

Sure enough, when I clicked through I saw my friend’s photo in the forum. It was a photo taken with her Asian husband. But with the things these goons had written about her, it was like finding her photo inside the men’s bathroom stall, defiled by graffiti and infantile racist screeds.

I could understand why she wanted to share this with me. It’s chilling when you find total strangers essentially crapping all over you in such an unsavory place. She didn’t post that photo on her blog, expecting this to happen. It’s the kind of thing that makes you say, “Damn, something’s seriously wrong on the Internet.”

But the question is, what do you do when the haters start harping on you? Or your blog? Should you go public with it on your blog?

Those are questions I’ve considered when I’ve become the fodder of hateful racist forums (including, most famously, a white supremacist group on the Southern Poverty Law Center’s watchlist). And I’m not alone. Other women who have blogged about interracial relationships have faced these issues, such as Madh Mama (who was harassed by an Internet troll giving her death threats).

In a sense, hate mail and hate comments are a badge of honor. You angered someone so much they felt compelled to respond to your work. Granted it’s an ugly response, but it shows you have some power. There are ways to blog about it.

Madh Mama did go public with her Internet troll and that’s how she defeated him. But to be clear, she did it in a very strategic way. She never linked to this person’s online drivel or gave him additional attention.

Likewise, when I blogged about the white supremacist group, I was careful not to mention them in name OR link to their forum. The last thing I wanted to do was give a hate group more publicity. I chose not to make any screenshots of the forum either, concerned that – once again – it might reveal the group’s identity.

Yet just because we blogged about it, should you?

Ultimately, that’s a personal decision – but one that comes with a huge asterisk. My bottom line is this: a blogger should never feel obligated to publicly share every time someone attacks them online. After all, you would not believe the sickening racist comments/e-mails that I’ve seen. If I devoted a post to every single instance, I’d be busy for months. Besides, my blog is valuable space – I don’t want to deign to quote from racists (unless there’s a compelling reason to do so). It’s enough to say I’ve received many awful racist comments/e-mails and I’ll receive many more in the future.

However, I always, always talk about it with someone. It might be my husband, a friend, a family member or even a fellow blogger. It’s so important to share our experiences, to know we’re not the only ones.

And I always remember, there are times when we need to do more than just talk. That’s what Madh Mama learned after those death threats:

Keep documentation. Keep screenshots with dates and times of all the harassment, throw it into a file (without looking at it) and save it for later. You never know when you’ll need it.

Internet trolls have very predictable patterns. They often use the same IP addresses and they often attack at certain times of the day. These timings can tell you a lot about your troll – for example, if they attack at 3pm Eastern time – that’s after school time. And the more frequently they attack you – the more lazy they get in covering up their tracks.

TRY to report it to authorities. Go to your local police. If you’re in the U.S.A, you can report it to the FBI’s cyber crimes unit. If your pictures are being stolen and defaced, contact DMCA.

Ultimately, the haters are gonna hate, no matter what. While blogging about it is optional, staying silent is not. If you’ve received a hateful racist e-mail or comment, or found your blog mentioned in a hate forum, please talk to someone about it. It could be your friends, family or even a fellow blogger like me.

One of the most powerful things we can do in response to hate is stay united, supporting anyone who has been attacked by racists or worse. The haters would rather I wasn’t here, but I’m not going anywhere. How about you?

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9 thoughts on “Racist Haters Will Hate – But Should We Always Blog About It?

  • May 2, 2017 at 10:03 am
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    Jocelyn I’m so sorry you and other bloggers have had to deal with this. I stand beside you 100%. Because you rock. Big internet hugs to you!!

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  • May 2, 2017 at 3:45 pm
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    Agree with you, this world has so many bad apples.

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  • May 3, 2017 at 2:26 am
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    The world is a very disturbing and dangerous place, always have and always will be so the best course of action is CONSTANT VIGILANCE. Never let your guard down and like Jocelyn had said in this post, when people stay united, it is much harder to do them harm. And that is exactly what we do. Just like a factory assembly line, society turns out defective merchandise all the time. Although this trend is not going to change anytime soon, we could make sure we make a nice and clear point, that IF YOU TRY TO HURT US OR SOMEONE THAT WE LOVE, THERE WILL BE UNPLEASANT CONSEQUENCES.

    I consider myself well traveled…Not in the smiling sunshine and butterflies Globe Trekker sort of way. But more like the “my trucks out of gas, I am drunk and I need to find a motel to crash in”. Think of a Toby Keith album but with far less pretty college coeds and far more “I got a .45 pointed right at your chest and if you come any closer, all that meth in your system aint gonna make that gaping hole in your body hurt less”.

    That means I had seen and experienced things that could gag a maggot. Being a drifter, even temporarily, is a lot like being a sewage maintenance crawler. You just dont swim around in excrement without looking and smelling like it. And that is why I carry a gun EVERYWHERE. Human beings are capable of doing some real depraved **** to each other but if anyone was to try something physical with me or someone that I love, I won’t hesitate to make them the next contender in the highly competitive game of “fill the slabs in the county morgue”.

    Reason why I am offering this comment is not only to tell good people not to be afraid of society’s scumbags, but also as a little word of advice to anyone with ill intentions who may be hiding behind a tree with their hand in their crotch eyeing this blog or one of its sister sites. If you prefer to enjoy good health, it is wise to not trash or attack places you dont know about. Because there just might be people like me who just dont react very well to having their comfortable surroundings disturbed.

    Oh and I must add. The folks who created these sites and participate and contribute here… They also happen to fall in the “people that I care about” category.

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  • May 7, 2017 at 1:47 am
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    I will probably never understand such people. Similar things happened to me/ my blog over the past years. Getting linked to certain racist forums or websites and even threats towards my son! Most interesting though that the threats towards my son came from a certain hapa website in which is explained why hapas are inferior to everyone etc (dont ask me why they chose my blog!)

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    • May 7, 2017 at 3:29 pm
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      Timo, thanks for the comment and so sorry you experienced threats like that. Sending you hugs.

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  • May 13, 2017 at 3:21 pm
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    It seems the racists are here to stay for awhile. I found people like that usually could not take it when you make fun of them in return! They get really angry when you say things back to them! Has anyone experience that?

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