[UPDATED] SELF China Seeking Chinese Women Over 30 + Single By Choice | Speaking of China

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  1. Sheila
    Sheila March 5, 2013 at 9:27 am | | Reply

    Very interesting topic. I thought being single is not an option but a status. Sometimes when being single for a long time, you are just so used to the living status right now and unwilling to change.
    Is that called a status quo?

  2. forest
    forest March 5, 2013 at 7:25 pm | | Reply

    May be they can’t let others be too close ? Trust issue ?

    And … choose not to marry is one thing, choose not to date is another?

  3. Laura
    Laura March 7, 2013 at 5:45 pm | | Reply

    I´ll spreed the word but my Chinese female friends say they have no choice so they are single.

    If Iwere you I would target someone with a good leadership /management position, high education and scientific background.

    But forest is right, when the woman dates men, is that considered single for your interview? Or then it means she is not single by choice?

  4. Laura
    Laura March 12, 2013 at 4:44 am | | Reply

    Yesterday I talked with a girl I met in Suzhou time ago, and the conversation reminded me of this post.
    S- She M-Me

    S: I want to marry, but no one wants to
    M: What do you mean?
    S: I want to marry and they all say no
    M: Do you have boyfriend now? I didn´t know
    S: No
    M: So how it came you want to marry?
    S: I don´t understand
    M: Marriage itself has no meaning. Someone wants to marry -someone, not just marry. The person you love comes along with marriage.
    S: I don´t have boyfriend and I don´t love anyone
    M: So then you should go step by step, first find love.
    S: But I want to marry
    M: Yes, but it makes no sense cause you can´t marry with the air. So first you find love, don´t think further.
    S: So I should seek for love?
    M: No please, don´t “seek for it”, just let it be, don´t force it, don´t push it.
    S: But I put many pictures in my weixin with all the things I have and many comments and no one says anything to me!
    M: Ok, First, forget about weixin, second, being materialistic is not going to help you to find love, third, pushing everyone out there in the market just makes them run away. Even when I see your moments in Weixin I think… “Oh my Gosh…this girl ..”.
    etc etc etc..

    It drives me crazy when people want to marry, and they don´t understand that you wish to marry, if you wish, when you find your love, or when you think you did..

    I´d like to add here, I have seen the movie “He is just NOT into you”, and it is such a good picture of the dating scenario. Both points of view (women and men), is fun also.

    Maybe is true that women “lie to each other” when the man is not calling or he is just…breaking up…that was the fun part of the movie.

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