Shall We Dance? Yes...But Not in Public | Speaking of China

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  1. Lueex
    Lueex August 27, 2012 at 3:28 am | | Reply

    At shenzhen’s pub, some men dance. I dance and have been mistaked for a foreigner:)

  2. zhao
    zhao August 27, 2012 at 4:27 am | | Reply

    Indeed, just i known, a lot of Chinese couples just like you said, usually don’t like in public to dance or do something, prefer just two people to share it. In that time he will say some words that usually would not!Another reason that’s say some words in public would let others people feel “肉麻”, hehe!

  3. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian August 27, 2012 at 5:31 am | | Reply

    It is not quite the same here in Malaysia among the Chinese, though of course there are still those who are shy or reluctant to dance with their partner in public.

  4. melektaus
    melektaus August 27, 2012 at 9:34 am | | Reply

    I’ve seen the craziest things in Beijing. Such as couples groping each other in public. I’ve also seen people singing loudly and dancing in public. However, among the older generation, it’s rare to see couples display affection but they also don’t seem to look down upon those who do display it.

  5. adesia
    adesia August 27, 2012 at 11:01 am | | Reply

    I guess I’m lucky my boyfriend is half Japanese and half french and raised here though he was born in japan..

    hes very affectionate =^.^=

  6. Sveta
    Sveta August 27, 2012 at 11:14 am | | Reply

    If Korean men are the same way, thanks for the warning. Whenever there are Russian parties for the whole family, one of the requirements is to dance after food has been served, or at least something one has to do. I kind of enjoy it, but often wonder what would be my special friend’s reaction to it? This is someone who doesn’t kiss or hold hands with me in public. (He was okay with hugging.)

  7. Eileen
    Eileen August 27, 2012 at 11:53 am | | Reply

    My husband is the opposite; he likes to dance to techno at clubs…and he can actually really dance. Clubs would be dull without him. 😀

  8. Dan
    Dan August 27, 2012 at 3:31 pm | | Reply

    Your husband might be conscious of his height. He didn’t know most people were intoxicated on New Year Eve. 🙂 Most Chinese minority groups have dance traditions. You will see public ballroom dancing parties on a summer night in most cities.
    Showing public affections are rare among Chinese youth today? I beg the differ. Doing that with a foreigner draws more attention though.

  9. namenotgiven
    namenotgiven August 27, 2012 at 6:09 pm | | Reply

    In general I have danced with guys who were Korean, Vietnamese, Chinese, Chinese Malaysian…. I think it depends on the location, and the guy.

  10. Andi
    Andi August 27, 2012 at 6:28 pm | | Reply

    Oh gosh our husbands are soooo different! Mine is always begging me to go dancing and I’m the one that’s saying no. 🙂

  11. jackie
    jackie August 27, 2012 at 6:34 pm | | Reply

    Haha! My husband is exactly like John when it comes to dancing. I wouldn’t be able to pull him onto a dance floor even if I had strength of Superman. He’s ok about other public displays of affection, though he if he’s going to kiss me in public he’ll only do it if we’re sitting in the back row of the bus or otherwise when no one is looking. Though living in China you know someone is always looking.

  12. Aorijia
    Aorijia August 28, 2012 at 12:07 am | | Reply

    I must have married a weird Chinese guy: He dances and sings like there’s no tomorrow (well, now with two kids it’s not that easy anymore). He
    even took salsa lessons with me. He is also extra affectionate with me, with our daughters and his dad.

  13. Aorijia
    Aorijia August 28, 2012 at 12:13 am | | Reply

    Have to continue below (commenting with my phone is kind of problematic): When I say affectionate I mean ‘affectionate in public ‘. I can see that his very traditional father is embarrassed whenever my husband kisses his cheeks in public, because the old man cracks up laughing.

  14. Maree
    Maree August 29, 2012 at 4:58 pm | | Reply

    haha cute! My Chinese hubby to be is the oposite of John it seems! His always pestering me to teach him to dance because he knows I did ballroom and latin for a long time. I was really surprised when he tried to force me to teach him in front of my parents lol!!!! Even in his shop that he works in, he isnt afraid to show some PDA towards me when I hang out with him in the shop!

  15. cvaguy
    cvaguy September 1, 2012 at 8:52 pm | | Reply

    If your husband or BF does not like to dance in public, consider sign him up with dancing class where both of you can practise dancing moves. Kind of progression to build up confidence of dancing.

  16. szewei
    szewei September 6, 2012 at 8:15 pm | | Reply

    haha i have danced with many different types of girls (all r girl friends only) in prom night during my college days…aaaaa i miss that big time 🙁 i would not mind dancing with my future partner anytime anywhere she wants hehe ^^

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