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  1. orange_rain
    orange_rain April 23, 2012 at 3:45 am | | Reply

    I’m sure your husband will make it in the end.. is there some reason why he can’t look for training opportunities from abroad? Good luck with you 2, don’t give up!

  2. Carline
    Carline April 23, 2012 at 5:08 am | | Reply

    Gook luck! I will be here with you always.

  3. Susan Blumberg-Kason
    Susan Blumberg-Kason April 23, 2012 at 6:12 am | | Reply

    I’m so sorry to hear about this latest news. But it sounds like you’re both taking it very well and have the strength to endure. It’s not the successes in life that make a marriage but the ability to get through unexpected obstacles. Still, wouldn’t it be nice if people were sincere when they made promises?

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian April 23, 2012 at 8:58 am | | Reply

    That’s the spirit, Jocelyn! Don’t give up. One of the doors may just open. And if not, move on. In the long march together at least both of you get closer to each other and grow in strength as a couple. But of course in the end, there is gonna be a solution and you and John will know better than us as to how to proceed. You and John will get there eventually. Cheerio!

  5. Yuping
    Yuping April 23, 2012 at 10:12 am | | Reply

    :)

  6. Sveta
    Sveta April 23, 2012 at 11:25 am | | Reply

    Good luck Jocelyn and stay strong.

  7. Reagan
    Reagan April 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm | | Reply

    March on!!!

  8. Andi
    Andi April 23, 2012 at 3:09 pm | | Reply

    I LOVE the message in this post!!! True love is definitely a miracle.

  9. AG
    AG April 23, 2012 at 6:13 pm | | Reply

    长征精神的确十分伟大,它起到大浪淘沙的作用,留下了坚强不屈的革命者,给后来者激励和将来的胜利建立了基础。

    Another piece of positive news, here is an American movie about AM/WF coming to theator soon “Shanghai Calling”

    《纽约客@上海》是一部新颖独特的电影

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xKjBRWh5RdE

    http://shanghaicalling.com/

  10. namenotgiven
    namenotgiven April 23, 2012 at 6:16 pm | | Reply

    There’s an old saying that “when one door closes, God will open up another one.” Sorry to hear that you are both still having to contend with this issue.

  11. cvaguy
    cvaguy April 23, 2012 at 9:45 pm | | Reply

    That is the spirit !!! The story of “Long March” was about narrowly escaping the inevitable doom, barely surviving the harsh condition of constant running through wilderness, but eventually prevailing despite of all odds against.

    My personal journey is a long march, from where I was, to where I want to be. The worst time was in the past, when survival was the highest priority, but battle will not end, where subtle politics is the battle field. Looking back at those days when tears welled up at lonely nights, lying on “my only sleeping place” the couch, no friends, no relatives, no money and hungry, worrying about up coming tests and examines, I actually smile. When you are at rock bottom, the only thing that is going to happen is the CLIMB. One door slams shut, the other will open. Opportunities come and go, those who are well prepared will grab one someday, hopefully soon.

    Side note about the soccer playing. I used to play defense since I was afraid of losing ball, the type of attitude a shy boy had. Years later, I finally decided that it was more fun to score than clear the ball, and I found myself could dribble, hold and shoot the ball very well (with fair amount of practice though). Just as you have discovered: Try some new skills, you will surprise yourself :)

  12. Da Dave
    Da Dave April 24, 2012 at 11:34 am | | Reply

    You know,

    I have a funny feeling that things are going to turn out really really well for you two. It’s because anything that’s worthwhile to pursue, any prize that’s worth attaining, in order to get it, you have to pay a price. A very dear price. That’s called paying your dues. And right now, you both are paying dues.

    I’ve been through projects that took me over a decade, cost me a few relationships along the way, not to mention my past career (which I didn’t like anyway), and just now, things are starting to build momentum.

    I’ve never worked on anything that was less than 3-4 years before it started building up into something major, and that didn’t involve a heavy price in terms of emotions, relationships, spirit, sweat, blood, and tears. Was it worth it in the end? It was damn well worth it. You both have each other, and even more important, you both support each other. In that aspect, you’re both very very blessed. For some of us, it’s me, myself, and I, and a very lonely path. But, we endure. You both have company. :)

    I think in 3-4 years, I’ll be looking forward to reading your best selling book about this. :D

  13. Sean
    Sean April 25, 2012 at 9:27 pm | | Reply

    Best of luck to both of you!

  14. Dan
    Dan May 2, 2012 at 6:26 pm | | Reply

    People might not know know how to talk about race other than in the discrimination context. You do not want to fall into the trap of calling someone racist too soon. What happens to your husband is likely to be a combination of factors — cultural differences, personality conflicts among others. I am not saying discrimination is right. But you want to protect yourself not by taking up a fight, unless this is the last resort. Pick a fight when you have allies. Be smarter at building relationships.

    I will be really careful about what to do next. Hopefully your husband will get better of dealing with these type of issues because they will likely occur again in the future. Sometimes leaving is the best option. Many people will do just that.

  15. Laolei
    Laolei August 24, 2012 at 10:18 am | | Reply

    Discrimination is always hard to counter, and in my experience it seems to come from where you least expect it. There also seems to be no end to it… and it doesn’t matter where you live or what you do I don’t think.

    Don’t keep waiting for a ‘Miracle’, Jocelyn, as there is no such thing. Just like people are not ‘born lucky’ – the select few given this title have actually gone out there and made their own luck.

    I’ll bet that when Mao instigated the Long March he didn’t expect it to be a Miracle, it was just something that he needed to do at the time. There was a problem, he overcame it. Just like you and your husband will do (or may have already overcome by now… I hope so!)

    Unfortunately you will experience this type of reaction from people now and again. To be blunt, you just have to get used to it. Get a thicker skin and be prepared to lose friends, work colleagues and even jobs too. Moving is generally only a short term answer, as no doubt this situation will rear its ugly head again wherever you are.

    The way my Chinese wife and I get through times like this is to sit down at home and get drunk together. We then hurl abuse at the perpetrators, come up with some imaginative ways to get even, and then generally end up laughing about it. We’ll often round that off by watching our wedding video… helps to remind us of better days :)

    Keep your ‘Miracle’ spirit up Jocelyn, don’t give up, jiayo!

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