Speaking of China's Top 5 Monday Posts for 2011 | Speaking of China

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  1. Sveta
    Sveta December 26, 2011 at 2:57 am | | Reply

    I liked reading all the articles 🙂 Best of luck to you and John and happy holidays.

  2. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian December 26, 2011 at 3:06 am | | Reply

    Happy New Year and happy holidays to you too, Jocelyn. You and John deserve a break. We await more interesting posts from you. And thanks for consistently writing.

  3. C.
    C. December 27, 2011 at 3:02 am | | Reply

    I’ve noticed something as I read over the posts and comments.

    I wonder if you need to be unusually optimistic to date a Chinese man. The reason why is someone who’s on the neutral/pessimistic end of the spectrum tends to look at indirect communication and go “I really don’t know what that’s about. Huh?” or “Maybe he’s just being nice because he’s trying to have sex with me.” I know that’s what I usually kept wondering, and — surprise, surprise — the relationship didn’t get very far. (This was not helped by the fact that the coworker who set us up said: “He doesn’t speak much English. But that’s ok, you don’t need to communicate much to date someone.” I got the vague idea from that that he was implying that I was slutty because all Western women are slutty. But maybe I’m taking indirect communication too far?)

    On a somewhat tangential note, I wonder if Deborah Tannen has ever looked into this particular area. I know she’s done a lot of work with Greek/American relationships and intercultural communication, but I don’t know if she’s done anything with Chinese/Western communication patterns.

  4. Michelle
    Michelle December 28, 2011 at 7:12 pm | | Reply

    Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year to you too, Jocelyn! I hope the new year brings a fresh start and happy times for you both. You deserve it!

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