Chapter 13: Different Eggplant, Different Cultural Expectations | Speaking of China

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  1. Melissa
    Melissa January 26, 2010 at 7:58 am | | Reply

    This reminds me of a smores incident my hubby and I had before we were married. I was in Guatemala visiting him at the time and we were out in the middle of nowhere. We knew we had a fireplace where we were staying and he had never heard of smores. Earlier that day I stopped at the store, bought all the ingredients and continued to spend the rest of the day telling him how much he would love smores…that everyone loves smores. That night I perfectly roasted his marshmallow and dutifully created the perfect smore. He took one bite, said “eh” and handed it back to me. ha ha ha I was so insulted, I couldn’t fathom that he would not be kissing my feet for introducing him to one of the sinful delicacies of the American culture. That’s when I learned that my husband doesn’t like sweets! Can you believe that? I person that doesn’t like sweet stuff. Much unlike our palate here in the US, in Guatemala they much prefer bitter or sour things.

    I follow probably about 50+ blogs although I’m not a faithful reader to all. But I must admit I love to read yours because it’s always reminding me of little situations with my husband.

    Thanks Jocelyn

  2. melanie gao
    melanie gao January 26, 2010 at 7:38 pm | | Reply

    I love the eggplant and the smores stories! In my case, I started cooking regularly for my husband when we got married. He lost a lot of weight in those early weeks. One evening he was picking at his food and he confessed to me, “I don’t like that … yellow stuff on the top.” He didn’t have a strong English vocabulary yet at the time but the yellow stuff was cheese, which was the common denominator for every dish I knew how to cook. After that every time a Chinese relative or friend came to visit I asked them to teach me their favorite dish. Before too long I had built up a broad, cheese-free, repertoire.

  3. adam
    adam January 27, 2010 at 12:22 am | | Reply

    “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all” is a polite procedure. But it’s also not a polite procedure to lost the temper in such a way.
    Yes. You’re right. Cultures matters. To teach John the wetern procedures is a pretty challenging job since you both in China. But I think since you’re living in China and having a Chinese husband, in a long period, it will be much easier for you to get to know more about Chinese “insults” so that you would have less opportunities to having argues or wars.
    Just some superficial thoughts. Wish that didn’t get your temper. ^_^

  4. rhiannon
    rhiannon March 25, 2010 at 12:49 pm | | Reply

    oh my goodness…ya, we have been in the same situation. I made lasagna once thinking he wold love it, he hated it, most of the American food he hated except for steak…so I ended up learning how to cook more Chinese things…but ya, I have truly been insulted! lol

  5. Crystal
    Crystal April 25, 2010 at 11:41 am | | Reply

    I have an almost identical story.
    My boyfriend cooked a beef steak for me, after few bites I couldn’t help commenting that it’s too bloody.
    Well… it opened the floods. He said that he bought the best pieces of beef, checked and re-checked the recipe, and even phoned his mom for advice – all that to be criticized. It seems that I don’t like any of “normal” food (cheese, butter, sour cream) and there is nothing that can satisfy my picky taste.
    It took some time before we could calmly discuss this situation.
    .-= Crystal´s last blog ..Chinese Women’s Preconceptions About Western Men =-.

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