Chapter 3: Shortcomings | Speaking of China

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  1. melanie gao
    melanie gao January 6, 2010 at 11:03 pm | | Reply

    Jocelyn I think you are my twin. Except you’re the nice one who was able to get over the difference in stature. When I was in Japan I was seeing this very nice guy who was surely not my soul mate but a good guy to spend time with. He was just a hair shorter than me, so I was able to get past that. But one day he casually mentioned his weight and it was lower than mine. And I mentioned that we were about the same height so that adds insult to injury. It was more than I could take, I had to break up with him. It was so incredibly superficial of me. But I knew we weren’t going to get married so it was for the best.

    On a side note, I have those same brown glasses! Seriously. I’m sure they’re even the exact same brand and model. But we shouldn’t check that because we would probably discover that I’m wrong, which wrecks my theory about us being twins.

  2. ellis
    ellis January 7, 2010 at 7:39 pm | | Reply

    Being 5’11” (180 cm), I can totally relate to this, but I’ve never had a boyfriend of any nationality who was taller than I am. People always ask me if I’d date a shorter man and honestly it hasn’t really bothered me, though I don’t know how I’d feel if there was a difference of five or six inches. I know lots of women won’t even consider a shorter man, but that seems like a silly thing to let get in the way of feelings. It’s always hard to get over what we first perceived as our ideal, but when/if we do, it’s usually more than worth it.

  3. Jennie
    Jennie March 9, 2010 at 11:51 am | | Reply

    I can totally relate. I’m also taller than my Chinese husband, not by much but it is visible. I’m at least 173cm (last time I cared to measure) and my husband is no taller than 172cm, but despite it being such small difference it’s so visible especially if I wear high heels. But who cares! It just looks a bit funny on pictures but I’ll give people that smile 🙂 I’m taller than most of my husband’s family. But what they don’t have in height, they have in heart. I adore my husband and his whole family!

  4. Sean Zhao
    Sean Zhao December 26, 2010 at 1:02 am | | Reply

    hahhaha ,this part is also quite full of fun, I think .
    About the height, I think it is an universally conception that ,especially in China from what I know ,girls want to marry a tall man, at least taller than her. So I think you are great to give up the height issue and pay more attention to his heart ,that is of course the most important.
    When I was in my small village, my mom worried about my height because my father is very short, 155 cm I think. After I grew up ,my height reached 178 cm, then she never worried about my height anymore,but right now the only thing she’s worrying about is my marriage .heheh

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