Chapter 45: Paying Respects and Pondering Family | Speaking of China

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  1. Jessica
    Jessica March 25, 2010 at 10:18 am | | Reply

    I remember feeling pretty awkward the first time we visited my husband’s ancestors’ graves as well. I didn’t really know what to do and was afraid of messing up the ketou-ing, or of inadvertently doing something disrespectful. I’m more comfortable with it now but I still feel a bit self conscious when it comes time to do the ketous and speak to my in-laws because it just isn’t a part of my culture so it is hard to shake the feeling that I’m just a big phoney. Having our son has made it easier because now both my husband and I can teach him the correct way to ketou and hey, there’s someone more clueless than me in the family, even if he’s only 2!

  2. melanie gao
    melanie gao March 25, 2010 at 6:33 pm | | Reply

    Jessica I love the way you expressed that sentiment, and I too am glad that I had kids so that there is someone more clueless in our family than me. 🙂

    Jocelyn, once again proving that we are twins, I blogged about visiting my husband’s grandmother’s gravesite a couple of years ago.

    I like visiting the gravesite a lot. It’s a very peaceful place and I love the way the four seasons are so different there. Talking to my husband’s grandparents comes very naturally to me even though I only met his grandmother once. But I like to thank her for raising him so well and I like for her to see that we’re doing well and taking care of each other, following in the ways that she taught him.

  3. Juliet
    Juliet March 26, 2010 at 9:04 am | | Reply

    My husband and I have a blog as well. It’s about our marriage, views, and family of four (soon to be five this summer). Give it a look! 🙂

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