The Pressures of an Unmarried Chinese man in the Countryside

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  1. 路易师傅
    路易师傅 March 31, 2010 at 2:36 am | | Reply

    Are you sure he would appreciate you talking about him online like this? You even have a picture.

  2. Juliet
    Juliet March 31, 2010 at 4:57 am | | Reply

    I hope that Er Ge finds happiness soon. He must be very shy.

    I keep thinking how brave it was for my in-laws to come here (bringing my husband and his sister with them) from Taiwan to make a new life. This after my MIL had already left China for Taiwan as a child. They made many sacrifices, both of them working multiple jobs, sometimes living apart. Eventually, it cost them their marriage. They never speak of it, though. I learned all this from my husband. Because of their sacrifices, he is a successful attorney, and loving husband and father of soon to be three children, living happily. I know that he has never forgotten all that they have done for him.
    .-= Juliet´s last blog ..A nice place to visit, but we would never want to live there (again). =-.

  3. rhiannon
    rhiannon March 31, 2010 at 3:05 pm | | Reply

    Poor guy, I guess my husbands brothers are pretty good with the ladies, all five of them are attached now, although one waited until late 30s to get married, pretty sure under pressure to do so.
    Now his wife has health problems (still in China while he is here working) and can’t have children, so he’s pretty bummed about that.
    .-= rhiannon´s last blog ..Meems, the chatter box =-.

  4. Rising Son
    Rising Son June 26, 2010 at 5:14 pm | | Reply

    Several points.

    I am always leery when vacationing foreigners go to someone’s home and snap away pictures and glean family stories from them as if they were conducting an anthropological study. Of course, in your case, it’s different because you were dating a family member. But still…

    Speaking of anthropologists (and sociologists), the issue of single men who can’t afford to marry in China is a hot topic and has SIGNIFICANT social (and by extension political) ramifications for the country in the next 15 to 20 years. Already, the shortage of women in the country is evidenced by numerous cases of girl and woman trafficking. Short of importing foreign women into the country as brides (as are the cases in South Korea and Singapore), the sex imbalance is a demographic ticking time bomb for China.

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