Chapter 58: China Marriage On My Mind | Speaking of China

6 Responses

  1. Chris
    Chris April 20, 2010 at 5:38 am | | Reply

    As a Chinese-Canadian who’s seen the East and the West, I’m really amazed how well and how deep you understand the intricacies of Chinese culture and society.

    It’s quite sad that many Chinese who grew up overseas like me couldn’t care less about Chinese culture, and many tourists who visit China only get a confusing glimpse and leave.

    You are totally epic. I totally click with your “foreigner” way of thinking plus your view of China from outside-in and inside-out.

    When I get the time I will definitely read this whole series. Take care!

  2. Melissa
    Melissa April 20, 2010 at 7:20 am | | Reply

    My now hubby and I dated long distance for about two years. He would come here for a few weeks, then go back to Guatemala for a few months. It is very difficult to develop a relationship that way because you’re always asking yourself if you’re just caught up in the “lust” phase or if you’re being swept away in the drama of it all. After a little while you realize how much work a LDR (long distance relationship) really takes. The most difficult part is deciding to get married. In a way you want your relationship to develop normally, organically if you will. On the other hand, if you want to be with your other half you realize it requires getting married. This was a hard one for us. We didn’t want to rush into getting married. We didn’t want to feel that we HAD to get married.

    In the end, we got married at what felt like a good time. We had a very small, private wedding with just the two of us and a few witnesses. We didn’t even invite our families. It ended up being a very special time and we didn’t have to feel the big arm of immigration pressuring us.

  3. Jennie
    Jennie April 20, 2010 at 11:37 am | | Reply

    My Chinese husband and I did talk about getting married before we actually did it. We were however together for almost 4 years before taking the step into marriage. But I do think my in-laws in China knew already that winter of 2006 when I went with my husband to China for the first time, that they had indeed met their future daughter-in-law. In fact, they asked when my husband and I would get married 😉 My family had also asked already in 2006 when there would be a wedding. My husband and I got married in October 2009 and now in June we’ll hold a big fat (or well, small in Chinese eyes) Chinese wedding party in Suzhou with about 100 guests, and I’m not going to let Eyafjallajökull stop our plans!

  4. Juliet
    Juliet April 20, 2010 at 1:54 pm | | Reply

    I had no idea marrying a Chinese citizen was so complicated!

    Dave and I talked about getting married. Then I got pregnant with William, which really sped things up. We will have been married eight years in August, though. It’s all worked out well.
    .-= Juliet´s last blog ..Illinois trip: Day 4: Coming home. =-.

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