Double Happiness: A Chinese-American Christian Love Story | Speaking of China

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  1. Jin Feng
    Jin Feng February 3, 2012 at 6:04 am | | Reply

    Omg this is the most heartwarming story I’ve read in a while. I think this couple looks perfect together, and I have very positive vybez from this story about this couple. You are perfect for eachother, wishing you so much happiness. xx

  2. David
    David February 3, 2012 at 9:22 am | | Reply

    Fantastic, as long as they dont go into the Pike County Church in Kentucky or similar churches down south or in Alabama. New Hampshire is way different from Idaho although both of them are mostly lily white…and Vermont is even better!

  3. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian February 3, 2012 at 9:59 am | | Reply

    Another wonderful love story between a WW and CM! I wish you guys a happy future together!

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian February 3, 2012 at 10:17 am | | Reply

    Reading this story, I can’t help but think of the Chinese belief in 缘分 (yuan fen) or destiny/fate. What if Kirsten had liked Italy? What if he had told her that he loved her when she was not ready? What if they had not met again so soon at the crusade meeting? What if… Ha, ha. The bottom line is that some many things have to happen exactly as they happened … Of course it may all be down to just coincidence. But coincidence is a funny thing. What is it? I don’t know. Neither do I know what is yuan fen.

  5. David L.
    David L. February 3, 2012 at 10:18 am | | Reply

    Great story, especially since it sounds a lot like the story between me and my wife (except it happened while I lived in China).

    In response to the other David…have you ever been to Kentucky or Alabama, or are you just repeating stereotypes? My Chinese wife and I live in Auburn, Alabama, which is a university town, and my parents live in a very small town in North Alabama and go to a country church there. We have never had any problems with anyone criticizing our international marriage. Ever. In the university town or the small town which is basically Redneck City, USA. Sure, there are bad apples everywhere, but you don’t need to paint everyone in a large part of the US with the same brush. I had a Chinese professor here tell me that he got worse treatment in Ohio than he ever did in Alabama, but the NYC was the best place he had lived. There are ignorant rednecks everywhere, but don’t lump the rest of us in with them.

  6. David
    David February 3, 2012 at 10:34 am | | Reply

    “have you ever been to Kentucky or Alabama, or are you just repeating stereotypes?”

    Not sterotypes….

    I have been to all fifty states.

    “My Chinese wife and I live in Auburn, Alabama, which is a university town, and my parents live in a very small town in North Alabama and go to a country church there. ”

    Glad your experience has been good. May be it is not as good for AMWW couples. A college Volleyball white female coach in Birmingham and her Japanese executive boyfriend were literally run out of town from a suburban town. Things got so bad in 2009 that the car company sent the executive back to Japan…and the woman was from way up north, closer to the Canadian border like Kristen. May be they are more accepting of AWWM couples compared to AMWW couples down there..dont know but that could be happening.

    “I had a Chinese professor here tell me that he got worse treatment in Ohio than he ever did in Alabama.”
    Parts of Ohio and PA are about the same. There is a saying PA is Philadelphia and Pittsburgh with Alabama in between.

    “There are ignorant rednecks everywhere, but don’t lump the rest of us in with them.”

    It is the matter of proportion and it is evident from their voting habits as in the case of the recent GOP primary in SC.

  7. Blossom
    Blossom February 3, 2012 at 2:17 pm | | Reply

    Thanks Kristen for your amazing story and the beautiful photo of you both. I wish everyone could experience love like you! Your story made me want to cry (and I am not an overly emotional type). You write so beautifully I think you need your own blog! And besides, we all want to follow you, see you get married, see you have children! 🙂 One observation I have, is that I find it interesting that he assumed you knew he was talking about his love for you. I am seeing this sort of ‘assuming’ in my own relationship, and also I am seeing it in many of the posts here on Jocelyn’s (awesome) blog. Is it related to shyness? Or is it more like a cultural trait… Or in fact both of these things? Anyway, cheers to you both. 🙂

  8. Sveta
    Sveta February 3, 2012 at 2:51 pm | | Reply

    Congrats to both of you. On the contrary, I’m hoping to meet someone who isn’t a Christian in any shape or form on the other hand. (Not trying to be rude, but I did date a guy who wanted to be an Episcopal priest and wanted me to convert, and I didn’t want to do it.)

  9. Kath
    Kath February 4, 2012 at 8:09 am | | Reply

    I am so very very happy for you both! Congratulations! I love the part where you have a mouthful of ice-cream when he told you he liked you and I loved the bit where your reaction was to run around the car park squealing even better. May there be many more “running around squealing with glee” moments for you both in your life together 🙂

  10. Eileen
    Eileen February 4, 2012 at 10:44 am | | Reply

    Haha, I am from New England. I am mainly Cajun, Irish, and Italian. xD

    “Kristen expected to marry an Italian guy and move to North Carolina. Life decided to take her in a slightly different direction.”
    I thought I was going to marry an Italian guy, myself! :O!

    I am very happy for you. 🙂 I can totally relate to this. I was nodding through the entire thing. I agree, you write very well.

  11. xiao 1
    xiao 1 February 5, 2012 at 11:13 pm | | Reply

    that is great to hear the story)i have a friend who is working as priest ,his wife is also a christian American girl who lead him to God and help him for church,now they have a beautiful baby,wish the best to them,all of U)
    but it is pity that christian only marry to christian,atheist like me cant have the Yuan fen(destiny)

  12. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian February 6, 2012 at 2:15 am | | Reply

    @Blossom, I think the “assuming” is more a cultural thing. Chinese people indeed do not feel very comfortable to openly express their love. This has largely to do with the way Chinese children have been brought up in an environment where open expression of love and affection is frowned upon or at least not encouraged. Of course times are a changing and more and more Chinese families, at least here in Malaysia, are becoming more comfortable with open expressions of love and affection although that is to say comparatively only.

  13. David
    David February 6, 2012 at 11:52 am | | Reply

    One thing about this story…she never mentioned how both families took to their relationship.

  14. Jenny
    Jenny February 16, 2012 at 3:03 pm | | Reply

    Yay, you submitted it!! <3

    David: I'm a friend of Kristen's, and based on what she's told me I can confidently say both families are very happy and supportive!! 🙂 She and her parents are even incorporating parts of his culture into the wedding!

  15. Laura Banks
    Laura Banks August 8, 2012 at 6:24 am | | Reply

    Hi, your story is lovely!
    My name is Laura Banks and I am doing some research into interracial chinese marriages for my university dissertation. I would love to be able to use your story, would you be willing to fill in a survey for me? Thank you laura banks

  16. Laura
    Laura September 14, 2012 at 11:12 pm | | Reply

    I am just stumbling upon your post right now, the sweetness of your courtship brought a tear to my eye. Could you please come back and write another post with an update about your wedding and married life, maybe with a wedding pic or two? You two are an adorable couple.

    I also wanted to say I met my husband in Cleveland, OH, where I grew up. I never heard ANY negative comments about being married to a Chinese man. In fact, we remodeled our house last year and we had countless construction contractors in and out of the house (a group that would stereotypically be the ones to let racial jokes slip) -and they all ADORED my husband. They thought it was so cool that he was from China and asked a lot of questions about what it was like growing up here. Of course, not everyone has been so lucky, but just wanted to let people know not to be afraid of moving to less diverse areas.

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