How far would you go to change your life? For Hao, his journey took him all the way to Mexico, where he found a new career — and a new love.
I’m really excited to share his story, and hope you find it as inspiring as I did.
It all started back in 2006, when I met this lovely Mexican family (not related to my love) living in California. In that same year, my fortunes took a turn for the worse. I couldn’t find a decent job in the States, and I struggled for years not knowing what to do. Then my Mexican friend suggested ever-so-casually, “Why don’t we go to Mexico?”
At first, I didn’t take the suggestion seriously. But after careful research on Mexico’s rapidly growing economy (which has consistently out-performed the US since the mid-90s) and considering my decent command of Spanish, I decided to take the leap of faith in 2010.
After a short stint with my friend’s family in Michoacan, I took a job as technical translator/interpreter in the city of Queretaro, and felt right at home since day one. Nowhere have I been treated with such genuine warmth as in Mexico. I’ve decided this is where I want to spend the rest of my life.
Fast forward to the spring of 2012, at an international cultural event. Immigrants from over 100 nations gathered at a major fairground in Queretaro to display the splendor of their cultures. Much to my chagrin, the Chinese, despite their sizeable population in Mexico, were regrettably absent at the event. As I walked out disappointed, waiting for the arrival of the bus that would take me back home, I casually, almost subconsciously, started to chat with this lady standing right next to me.
As we boarded the bus, we continued to chat on the way home. I forgot what we talked about, but she struck me as an intelligent, well-disciplined person who is not into vanity or shallow trends. We exchanged contact info, then parted our ways. Although it was not love at first sight, I certainly felt the need to get to know her better at that moment.
So I gathered up all my courage and asked her out. I put up my best impersonation of Luis Miguel at a local Karaoke and observed her closely. To my surprise, she does not normally drink. It was then I felt that admiration, that soon turned into infatuation.
After a week and half of knowing her, on our third date, I told her that I wished to be more than just friends, despite my better judgment not to rush. And since then, I never regretted it.
To show her my sincerity, I asked to meet her parents. And what a lovely family she has. I was well-received, trusted, and treated like a member of the family. Deep in my heart, I know the bond between us will last a for long time to come.
I soon informed my family of the good news. Needless to say, my siblings were eager to meet their future sister-in-law. Sadly, my mother passed away the year before, forever dampening the joys we could have felt.
Six months have passed, and we’re still as close as ever. We can connect both emotionally as well as rationally — a perfect recipe for long-lasting relationship, something I have never felt before. And we both know that we shall never forsake this precious yuanfen, or destiny, between us.
Hao is a translator and interpreter residing in Queretaro, Mexico.
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