Double Happiness: Chinese Man Moves to Mexico, Finds Love | Speaking of China

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  1. Kalvinator
    Kalvinator November 30, 2012 at 8:12 am | | Reply
  2. Pame
    Pame November 30, 2012 at 9:22 am | | Reply

    That’s such a lovely story! I wish them the best!!! And makes me wonder why that doesn’t happen to me!? LOL! I guess my country (Costa Rica) is too small and perhaps unknown… However cataloged as the happiest country in the world and called paradise because of it’s nature… Anyway, may everyone be blessed and let yuan fen make it’s work!

  3. Ashleigh Son
    Ashleigh Son November 30, 2012 at 9:26 am | | Reply

    I have to say, these love stories are my favorite posts.

  4. Marce
    Marce November 30, 2012 at 9:29 am | | Reply

    Lovely story!, I’m happy to see that Hao liked Mexico so much to spend the rest of his life there. I’m mexican with chinese boyfriend and for the moment we live in Europe but in a future we are considering moving to Mexico so I hope he feel the same way as Hao.
    Reading the story makes me realized that performing Luis Miguel could have saved a lot of time to my boyfriend when we were just friends. For sure it was a smart move ;)..

  5. Sveta
    Sveta November 30, 2012 at 3:24 pm | | Reply

    Good luck to them

  6. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories November 30, 2012 at 5:31 pm | | Reply

    @Kalvinator: That’s such a beautiful story. And what a great place they found to live at.

  7. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh December 1, 2012 at 3:06 pm | | Reply

    I know I’ll be CRUCIFIED for saying this, but Asian men in Latin America do not have the best reputation. They’re often guilty of the same misdeeds that Western men in East Asia are accused of.
    Asi que, to our Latina lady friends, before you plunge head first into a relationship with that imaginary Lee Donghae, expand your 1st hand knowledge of East Asian cultures through personal interaction with Asians (preferrably women: less risky). Go to social events with them (if there’s an Asian community in your country), get used to interacting with them. It will help you to see through some of the more disingenious ones.
    I’ve seen too many broken hearts (or worse) to mindlessly cheer you on.

  8. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories December 1, 2012 at 10:29 pm | | Reply

    @Henry: I don’t know about Latin America specifically, but I think that there are guys like that no matter the culture and no matter where you are in the world. I totally agree that it might be hard to see a person’s “real face” if they come from a culture you’re not familiar with and that it might be wise to get to know sb slowly.

  9. askdsk
    askdsk December 1, 2012 at 11:26 pm | | Reply

    Chinese or not, you need to live your life the way you want it to be. I see Chinese men treat their own women like shit in their own country.

  10. Latin America Vet
    Latin America Vet December 2, 2012 at 5:47 pm | | Reply

    This Asian dude’s explored a lot of how Asian men in general do in Latin America, and the Asian descendent Diaspora overall. Here’s a few links.

    Asian Dragons and Andean Condors

    In Latin American Media

    And from Peru, Bolivia, Brazil, to Argentina.

    Basically the social barriers that get setup in our heads in the English speaking world, don’t exist in the Spanish speaking world. There are other hoops, like anyone else, but when it comes to attraction, Asian men are still seen as men and decent catches, and women are still women. Quite different overall compared to the Anglosphere.
    He also makes a good point that the Anglosphere culture essentially stops the moment you change languages and borders, and perceptions completely change when it comes to Asian men / Nonasian women relationships. Which makes sense, the world doesn’t speak English, Anglosphere culture isn’t universal, and even though they may watch the movies, most of Hollywood’s cultural references and stereotypes are in general lost on much of the non english speaking world. They can’t relate to it, and they don’t care.

    And thank goodness for that.

  11. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh December 3, 2012 at 10:44 am | | Reply

    I’ve heard that Anglophone countries other than the US are usually not quite as bigoted toward non-Westerners. Asians in Canada, UK, Australia, & New Zealand are generally treated better than in the US.

  12. Si
    Si December 4, 2012 at 12:21 pm | | Reply

    Well I live in Vancouver Canada which is a probably the only city in N. America that has more ethnic minorities than it does caucasian people. Certainly you wont feel threatened here but you also wont feel accepted. As for dating, well lets just say, everybody here wants to date Asian women but few want to date Asian men. So probably no different than anywhere else in N. America.

  13. Manny
    Manny December 5, 2012 at 2:47 pm | | Reply

    I just read Jocelyn’s link about a racist attack against 2 Chinese boys by some Australian men and women. I was horrified. In the south where I live in the U.S., there used to be many attacks and lynchings against Blacks but there are no more now because we Whites have overcome this bigotry.

    @ Si. Yes, I agree with you and it is the same here in the southern part of the U.S. that amongst all of my fellow Whites many White boys want to date and “bang” Asian girls but not many White girls want to be “banged” by Asian boys. I am one of those White boys who want to have a Chinese girlfriend and am getting close to securing one. So, wish me luck this weekend as I will propose to my potential “fortune chickie” to be my girlfriend.

  14. Bruce
    Bruce December 5, 2012 at 7:37 pm | | Reply

    When you talk about “banging” asian/ white women, it’s all in your head. I don’t find anything sexually aroused about it. Once you try it, it’s the same. Maybe later on, you will hate it so much with that kind of women.

    I think those chinese students didn’t fight back. Please fight back! Even killing your attackers is a good thing on my book. When you intend to fight back, your intent is to kill them, then they will fear you. That is just life. You can’t rely on staffs and passengers to help you. I don’t like violence at all but you just have to be prepared and protect yourself and family members. I’ve always been a very peaceful person ;however, if I was in their situation, I would have pushed those attackers onto the rail and kill all of them. I will show no mercy even if they beg for mercy. Only way to stop attackers is to make them feel fear. Attackers will sense it when you’re an easy prey. The weaker you look, the more they will target you. I just wish those attackers will target me , my grand brother and my friend. We will destroy them all. I know our personalities so I’m not afraid to write like this here.


  15. Manny
    Manny December 6, 2012 at 2:57 pm | | Reply

    @Bruce. I am gald to see that you have re-appeared again. I thought that you disappeared into oblivion. Yes, I agree with you that if someone attacks you, you must defend yourself to your best ability and use all reasonable but not excessive force.

    I will keep you informed whether I am successful with my proposal to my future “fortune chickie” (Kate) this upcoming weekend. Thanks for all of your advice, bro.

  16. Bruce
    Bruce December 6, 2012 at 3:43 pm | | Reply


    I went on a vacation ( beautiful trip). I was busy with work. Went deer hunting and shot an 8 points deer from 300 ft. Yes, I’m an animal!!!!!!! :). Clean up my home/backyard . Preparing for winter/christmas/new yr. lots of things to do man.


  17. Manny
    Manny December 7, 2012 at 12:38 pm | | Reply

    @ Bruce. Good to know that you are back and alive, bro.

  18. Kin
    Kin December 7, 2012 at 9:32 pm | | Reply

    @Henry Yeh
    I’ve known some Chinese men who have worked in Latin America, according to them quite a few Chinese men do have Latin girlfriends over there and even married men that left their family in China have mistresses too. A lot of the times these relationships are based off their economic situation, where poor local women seeks to marry a wealthy foreigner. I’m not sure how common it is but I hope it’s not the basis for most Chinese-latin relationships.

    This is definitely not the case with Hao as their love is genuine. Good luck to them.

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