Double Happiness: Chinese Wedding Stories from Four Western Women | Speaking of China

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  1. Sveta
    Sveta August 24, 2012 at 2:38 am | | Reply

    Beautiful stories. I’ve been to three weddings I think. First time was when my second cousin married (divorced two years later,) they’ve done something Jewish style I think, with the Rabbi and so forth. Another time was the time I attended synagogue when the people who converted to Judaism married, but besides the cake it wasn’t that special sorry to say. Last time was at my sister’s wedding. I was the maid of honor and brought my friend Madison over (forgot to say that I’ve been at her wedding in the same month…) I caught the bouquet of flowers and had a good time.

    Few years back, I recall my ex special friend showed me some picture of a Korean wedding done by his friends (white female Korean male,) and explained the traditions to me. (One was eating the nuts with the family which signifies fertility, another is taking the bride away, forgot others.) The couples look beautiful too I admit. Sorry, been in a bad mood last few weeks.

  2. zhao
    zhao August 24, 2012 at 6:27 am | | Reply

    I also attended some cousins wedding, just like you said similar things. I remember my cousins sister that day kissed her husband ,not like your kiss, my cousins sister and her husband are little bit shy.
    Thank you for your sharing. Your blog really so good. I already introduced the blog and share your facebook to my friends.

  3. BBCzeitgeist
    BBCzeitgeist August 24, 2012 at 6:34 am | | Reply

    IMO, majority of non-East Asian women look ridiculous in a qipao, especially the fat ones, many cannot fit into a qipao properly. In addition, they usually have no concept of what a marriage qipao looks like, I’ve seen non-east Asian women wearing qipaos for their weddding, the qipaos they chose are the types usually worn by prostitutes or restaurant hostess. The authors wedding costume in the photo is also completely tasteless…I rest my case.

  4. Jason
    Jason August 24, 2012 at 8:58 am | | Reply


    Of course you do….because your taste in women is tasteless.

  5. Dan
    Dan August 24, 2012 at 9:28 am | | Reply

    Ember is a good writer. She looks great in Qipao.
    Such parings (artist and musicians) are more common in Beijing.

  6. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian August 24, 2012 at 11:52 am | | Reply

    All very interesting, some hilarious and inspiring wedding/marriage stories! And all three of you western brides looked great/ gorgeous in qipao! Don’t believe otherwise!

  7. nonamegiven
    nonamegiven August 24, 2012 at 7:07 pm | | Reply

    Wow! I took a peak at your blog page.
    Thanks for the post. Every one of the ladies looked beautiful on their wedding day, wearing both quiapos and western wedding attire.

  8. Kelly
    Kelly August 25, 2012 at 6:48 am | | Reply

    Thanks so much for including me, Jocelyn! What great company!!

  9. SBC
    SBC August 26, 2012 at 4:13 pm | | Reply

    haha interesting post Jocelyn.

    @BBCzeitgeist: Wow… way to go with being a tool. There is a difference between honest opinion and unwanted rude commentary.

  10. Shannon
    Shannon August 26, 2012 at 7:34 pm | | Reply

    Thanks for including me, Jocelyn! So fun to open up your blog and see my own stories there. 🙂 I know I keep saying it but I’m going to get back into blogging – I’m going to! Hope you guys are doing well and that the move transition has been going okay. Take care!

  11. szewei
    szewei August 26, 2012 at 9:40 pm | | Reply

    thanks 4 the wonderful cross marriage stories. ^^ it has inspired me even more 2 seek 4 my next cross racial wedding one day. ^^

  12. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh August 27, 2012 at 11:22 am | | Reply

    @BBCzeitgeist that was extremely rude.

  13. Aorijia
    Aorijia August 28, 2012 at 12:33 am | | Reply

    I also had to get married twice, once in Spain and once in China.
    In my blog, I have some posts about weddings in China and about the photo shootings. it’s in Spanish, though.

    I disliked my Chinese wedding. Lots and lots of guests I didn’t know, a huge waste of food, my 10 month old daughter involuntarily becoming focus of attention (yang wa wa! Hun xue er! ) and lots (and I mean LOTS ) of smoke.

    I didn’t wear a qipao. My ass is too big for that.

    Sorry for the weird punctuation.

  14. Yichi
    Yichi September 1, 2012 at 5:45 am | | Reply

    Hi Jocelyn, I reckon there’s something wrong with the database that I couldn’t open the article ‘Ask the Yangxifu: Should I Wear a Qipao in My Chinese Wedding? Aug 31st, 2012 by Jocelyn Eikenburg’, all I could get in the content field is

    WordPress database error: [Unknown column ‘day_no_time’ in ‘field list’]
    INSERT INTO wp_popularpostsdatacache (id, day, day_no_time) VALUES (4369, ‘2012-08-31 21:56:14’, ‘2012-08-31’) ON DUPLICATE KEY UPDATE pageviews = pageviews + 1, day = ‘2012-08-31 21:56:14’, day_no_time = ‘2012-08-31’;

    I guess there is something wrong in the database with that entry. Maybe reposting it and deleting the original one would work?

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