Double Happiness: The Date In China That Changed Her Future | Speaking of China

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  1. Michelle
    Michelle November 18, 2011 at 2:37 am | | Reply

    Congratulations! I am about to celebrate my 2-year anniversary as well with my bf. Although I probably won’t be staying in China forever (we’re planning to get married and move back to the US), I was pretty surprised when I first started dating my Chinese boyfriend. Before I came to China, I couldn’t speak Chinese. My friends teased me before I left, saying that I was going to meet a Chinese guy and never come back. Who knew they’d be half right? =P

    It’s interesting what your boyfriend said about you being less demanding than Chinese girls…my boyfriend says the exact same thing to me, especially as his family is also not that well off. From what I’ve seen, though I am generalizing, it’s true that Chinese girls can be more demanding in terms of time and gifts.

  2. Eileen
    Eileen November 18, 2011 at 7:08 am | | Reply

    This article made me 🙂 Love this! Thank you for sharing.

  3. David
    David November 18, 2011 at 8:01 am | | Reply

    Chinese or East Asian men who marry white women belong to one of these two socio-economic situations: (1) wealthy; (2) very smart. Actually I have seen more white women married to Chinese or Asian men who are professors at universities than any other profession…may be because such couples are generally more accepted in such a university setting. There are at least three white women professors married to Asian men professors at the University of Hawaii and man do they have super-smart high achieving children. One even graduated high school at 15 and college at 19!

  4. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian November 18, 2011 at 8:21 am | | Reply

    Another inspiring story of AMWW relationship. More power to you guys!

  5. Pamela
    Pamela November 18, 2011 at 8:38 am | | Reply

    I always love to read this stories <3 hope I can have my own myself oneday 🙂

  6. Jin Feng
    Jin Feng November 18, 2011 at 11:49 am | | Reply

    I love reading these stories xxx

  7. Kin
    Kin November 18, 2011 at 2:50 pm | | Reply

    I love the Double Happiness series too. Very sweet. 🙂

  8. Sveta
    Sveta November 18, 2011 at 7:37 pm | | Reply

    Sweet story. Congratulations to you Jemma and good luck! Like few others I also enjoy reading the stories as well. Quick question though; if a Chinese guy likes a girl, does he show interest in her right away or does it take time for him to tell her he’s interested in her?

  9. Valentina
    Valentina November 20, 2011 at 2:04 am | | Reply

    I think it’s true about foreign girls being less demanding, at least financially. I don’t know about other Chinese men but even though he doesn’t earn a lot of money, my boyfriend seems to love buying gifts and paying for my stuff, though I always ask him not to. He fell in love with a girl over the internet, and when they met up, her first question was do you own a house? A car? And when he answered that he didn’t, she proceeded to dump him on the spot! When I used to meet with some of my Chinese guy friends, they would always insist on footing the bill, be it a cup of coffee or an expensive dinner. At first it made me a little uncomfortable,we’re just not used to that back home, but Chinese girls expect it. How interesting…lol.

  10. Ema
    Ema November 20, 2011 at 2:37 am | | Reply

    I like reading this kind of story, it also reminds me how my husband and I met in London 13 years ago. Regarding Chinese women being very money orientate, I think when you see poverty right in to your face you try almost anything to improve your position and nowadays money talks. It’s not nice but it happens and not only in China.
    My first movie with a chinese guy was “the lover” and I was hook.

  11. PNA
    PNA November 20, 2011 at 6:16 am | | Reply

    ” My boyfriend told me he likes that I am less demanding than many Chinese girls ”

    I’m sure the things Western men tell their Chinese girlfriends about Western women are pretty unflattering too .

  12. Friend
    Friend December 6, 2011 at 3:38 pm | | Reply

    I was thinking of something when I read the Andy Lau part.

    For all you out that that feel attracted to Chinese guys or Chinese culture, did movies or pop culture help a lot of you all to create that spark?
    Or was it something else?

    Cause Western, particularly American, entertainment did that to a lot of people around the globe; help spark some of those desires for Western people and culture.

  13. Chris
    Chris December 7, 2011 at 1:25 am | | Reply

    Great post! Very romantic story.
    I really appreciate the manners of most western girls on love and marriage.

  14. Huu J
    Huu J December 10, 2011 at 10:51 pm | | Reply

    Of all the Asian girls that i have befriended with, some wants a rich guy while others don’t care. Material demands aren’t limited to race or gender. My WGF is there for me emotionally, and nothing else.

  15. steven
    steven December 15, 2011 at 6:04 am | | Reply


  16. Sexy Confident Woman
    Sexy Confident Woman October 29, 2012 at 7:11 pm | | Reply

    Well i don’t really check out guys that much as i am extremely focused on getting through university.
    However when i was off university timetable my doorbell rang and i open to see the most gorgeous asian man i have met.
    I think he was chinese i’m not sure but he was a salesman selling patios and i was like no thank you we’re not looking to spend a large sum right now.
    I was gutted that i was not dressed as my best anyway he’s gone now but i certainly checked him out. I was happy that i checked a guy out after a really long time.

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