"Enter Zhao Ming...China's Answer to Arnold Schwarzenegger"

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  1. Sara (Living a Dream in China)
    Sara (Living a Dream in China) July 5, 2013 at 9:00 am | | Reply

    Aww, what a story! Thank you Rosalie for sharing it with us! There must have been fate between you two, his final attempt and you finally, for some reason, let him to walk you home. While I read your story I could see it happening in my head, very well written!

    This is a great example for all of us of how little it sometimes might take to find your love in life. When you least expect it, you might end up finding your road.

    I would like to think that fate had something to do with me and my boyfriend meeting too. We had a common friend, but the night we met and hit if off, our Japanese friend had invited him to a pub, he had also invited a Finnish guy who then invited me. And like this we ended up in the same table, talking endlessly about things. If we had met in another time and another circumstances, perhaps the outcome also would have been different? But luckily it happened this way 🙂

    Thank you again Rosalie and Jocelyn for sharing!

  2. Anonymous
    Anonymous July 5, 2013 at 10:14 am | | Reply

    really? Arnold is a high level dedicated bobybuilder who won international titles, so it’s inherently assumed that his feats of strength are no small matter.
    Not to mention his efforts in diets. Mentioning a dude who doesn’t look half as good as Arnold in his bulking or off-season time, whose job is not solely lift, eat and find better ways to diet is kinda pretenious

  3. Bruce
    Bruce July 5, 2013 at 11:11 am | | Reply

    I’m glad that another Chinese man loves bodybuilding!

    @Anonymous, Arnold used steroid and ALL professional bodybuilders use steroid. Without steroid, you won’t look like Arnold and you need good genes.

  4. Manny
    Manny July 5, 2013 at 12:05 pm | | Reply

    @ Rosalie. Wow!!! What a story! Persistence paid off for the China boy. Congrats to you both.
    As a White boy in love with a China doll, I tried on several occasions to chase down a Chinese goddess but to no avail. Finally, one of my sisters felt sorry for me and she met one of her college girlfriends who was an ABC girl. Then my sis intro’d me to her and now we are solidly in love. Now I have met her parents and they seemed to like me a lot (I think!) and we talking increasingly more about marriage and kids.

  5. Manny
    Manny July 5, 2013 at 12:07 pm | | Reply

    @ Bruce. Hey, bro. Long time no chat. What’s new with you, bro?

  6. Rdm
    Rdm July 5, 2013 at 4:07 pm | | Reply


    Still enjoy trolling? Where are your two sisters? Love to hear your grandfather’s story once more.

    Now China doll? love that expression.

    I’ll wait here while I’m having milk with cereal Crackers.

  7. Michelle
    Michelle July 5, 2013 at 10:03 pm | | Reply

    @Anonymous: If you’re going to call someone pretentious, at least man up and do it as yourself, not as Anonymous. And I honestly don’t think Rosalie thought to herself, “Hey, this guy is a high level dedicated bodybuilder who’s won international titles, he spends all his time eating, lifting, and dieting, and oh yeah, he’s also got a secret love-child with his housekeeper. He’s EXACTLY LIKE Arnold, except Chinese.”

    @Rosalie: Great story! Something interesting I learned in college that I still remember is when you’re working out, your endorphins are higher, which creates more positive feelings. So the gym is a smart place for men to pick up women because the women will attribute those feelings of excitement to talking to the guy (of course this doesn’t apply to all guys, and in your case, those feelings were legit).

  8. Laura
    Laura July 5, 2013 at 10:13 pm | | Reply

    I love this story!
    Persistence is something that always pays off.
    At the beginning I was also quite on denial but this guy…he has knows what he wants! 🙂
    It is nice when persistence is done carefully and with respect!
    I am very happy to read your story and to learn that here we have another brave Chinese man !

  9. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories July 6, 2013 at 8:04 am | | Reply

    Great you gave him a chance!

    @Laura: I agree that persistence can pay off, but sometimes only unto a certain point. There has to be something more than just persistence to connect two people’s hearts. Persistence can make you see things (or a person in that case) that you didn’t see before, so it can definitely be a good thing!

  10. Oegukeen
    Oegukeen July 6, 2013 at 8:56 am | | Reply

    This is such a sweet story.

    Now I am kind of happy that I grew up in a Western country that has virtually no Asian men which also means no stereotypes (apart that they all eat rice.) So when he made his first move I didn’t have to fight off the conditioning that dating an Asian man is somehow silly.

    But I think it’s great that Ms. Rosalie Zhao managed to do just that 🙂

  11. Anonymous
    Anonymous July 6, 2013 at 10:09 am | | Reply

    @Michelle: who says I have to use my real name online to call someone pretenious? plus, would it change anything if I fill in the name field as something else? You still wouldn’t now who I really am.
    if you really wanna trace it, the email I use is linked with my youtube account, which I put videos of myself lifting.
    This story isn’t much different from as if my ex gf tells people she was dating an Asian equivalent of Georges St. Pierre. I would have laughed my ass off hearing that before telling her to stop the analogy.
    plus, his commitment to the gym must be stellar preying on women like that heh?
    @Bruce: you’re such a Strength and Conditioning expert ain’t ya? NO matter what dosage and what type of steroids you take, you won’t look half as good as Arnie (spoken from a guy who abhors bobybuilding with a passion)

  12. Rdm
    Rdm July 6, 2013 at 12:10 pm | | Reply

    It’s just simple. If you think his off-season bulking is not worth your time, skip it.
    It’s just too much simple. If you think Arnold is a sole builder Zao Ming can’t even be compared, skip reading this.
    It’s again way too simple. If you think Rosalie is asking her husband Zao Ming to go and compete in international bodybuilding competition and dethrone the Arnold, you’d better look out for some other website like bodybuilding dot com?

    This topic is about sharing the story of how she met a guy in the gym. She would have mentioned Arnold in the sense of the place where they met, the GYM. But you’re picking bones with her comparison of Arnold and project negative comment.

    You’re entitled to your opinions. You may be taller than Zao Ming, more muscular than Zao Ming, more handsome than Zao Ming, after all, you might be a body trainer after all. But what’s up with that his wife thinks her husband is good enough for her and living together for 5 years? What’s up with that?

    This is the story sharing topic, one way or another, all those stories tend to be a bit of surreal experience and exaggeration.

    What more do you want?

  13. Allen
    Allen July 6, 2013 at 3:22 pm | | Reply

    “plus, his commitment to the gym must be stellar preying on women like that heh?”

    Preying?? Seems to me he met a ONE girl he genuinely liked and didn’t simply give up on the first try.

    Was persistent in a respectful manner (never got pissed as if he felt entitled to her attention), and learned a foreign language without being like the creepy Asiaphile who says “NI HAO” to every female in sight that remotely looked Asian.

    As told in the story, he was prepared to stop, with the good fortune that she finally said yes on his final attempt. Two weeks of persistence seems long to me, but, hey, it worked out for the best didn’t it?

  14. Allen
    Allen July 6, 2013 at 3:29 pm | | Reply

    “met ONE girl”

    Thought I make that correction before the grammer police try to arrest me.

  15. Allen
    Allen July 6, 2013 at 3:30 pm | | Reply


    I wish I can edit comments.

  16. Laura
    Laura July 6, 2013 at 5:43 pm | | Reply


    Agree! Need a combination of qualities, of values, from both sides! Not only being persistent but also other great qualities. And also from Rachel’s part! Is the whole combination what makes that relationship work so well. He “used” persistence in a good way, he lifted those qualities to a higher level, and let’s say, someone people don’t know how to be persistent, they just cross the line, not easy!

    Cyberbulling is everywhere, if someone wants to call you something and he cannot even show who he really is don’t even take him into account. As my friend likes to say to this kind of people…. Man up.

  17. Bruce
    Bruce July 7, 2013 at 8:21 am | | Reply

    @Anonymous, good genes will determine a career in professional bodybuilding. Let’s not compare people will ya! It’s like comparing rich people or your rich friends with you or others.

    At least I give credit to Ming that he had the confidence to approach his wife. Yes, working out will build up your confident level. I personally know that.

  18. forest
    forest July 7, 2013 at 8:35 pm | | Reply

    Love the story. Confidence, persistence and happiness 🙂

  19. askdsk
    askdsk July 7, 2013 at 10:12 pm | | Reply

    I think the guy benefits from no inferior complex being in a small Chinese city. He did not speak English and probably not exposed to lots of negative opinions either. Sometimes it is best not to know and to chart your own course. If a couple remains in China, they will continue to be insulated.
    To build on a relationship will need more than persistence like someone else mentioned earlier.

  20. Anonymous
    Anonymous July 7, 2013 at 11:01 pm | | Reply

    @Laura: if you think I need to man up, then true, I can stand to gain some more balls. i mean, this little boy has only been in an MMA cage, pro-Muay Thai rings… you know, stuffs that little sissies do… unlike Mr chinese Arnold over there

    @Bruce: mind you, it isn’t me who brings up the comparison between this dude and Arnie

    @the rest of you whiny folks: read the title and tell me who’s being more ridiculous?

  21. Laura
    Laura July 7, 2013 at 11:05 pm | | Reply

    I believe masculinity is not something only about appearance, work out. Masculity is more link to grown ups, those who are mature enough

  22. Rdm
    Rdm July 7, 2013 at 11:31 pm | | Reply


    Send me your youtube link. I kinda like whining.

  23. Mira
    Mira July 7, 2013 at 11:57 pm | | Reply

    Why get so worked up about a title….it’s tongue in cheek, even when she (Roalie) says ” Enter Zhao Ming, seemingly China’s answer to Arnold Schwarzenegger.” it’s done with humour.

  24. Sveta
    Sveta July 8, 2013 at 12:41 pm | | Reply

    What a sweet tale 🙂 good luck to you guys.

  25. Bruce
    Bruce July 8, 2013 at 12:56 pm | | Reply

    It’s just a title . We shouldn’t fight over little things like this . Anyway, I still give Ming the credit for his effort.

    Actually, I like Ronnie Coleman over Arnold. I like the freaky looks. Arnold’s time is from the 70’s but Ronnie is the freakiest I think. No comparison dude.

  26. Rebekah
    Rebekah July 9, 2013 at 8:39 am | | Reply

    What a wonderful story!
    Rosalie and Ming, I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  27. Vince Lin
    Vince Lin July 9, 2013 at 6:50 pm | | Reply

    They look cute! His face looks very feminine which doesn’t match his masculine body 🙂

  28. Bruce
    Bruce July 10, 2013 at 5:28 pm | | Reply

    How do you guys want Asian men to look like ? Comparing 40 or 50 yrs old Asian men with White men, Asian men tend to look much younger. Look at George Clooney man! He’s 52 but look like 72 dude. Yes we do have less body hair and less winkles :).

  29. Henry Yeh
    Henry Yeh July 11, 2013 at 11:00 am | | Reply

    You can clearly see that Anonymous is using this opportunity to take cheap shots at Asian men, as he feels that the author is trying to challenge his bigoted notion of Asian masculinity (or lack thereof).
    Guess in the West, openly flaunting bigotry against Asians is considered acceptable.

  30. Anonymous
    Anonymous July 12, 2013 at 9:32 am | | Reply

    @Rdm: username: mike2011989
    @Henry Yeh: I am an Asian dude, what benefit does it gain me taking cheap shots at Asian men?

  31. Rdm
    Rdm July 12, 2013 at 7:45 pm | | Reply

    Nice snatch. But I have to say Zaoming’s Biceps and Triceps are bigger than yours. Maybe his is off-season bulking. Yours is when all season? I don’t know.

    What can I say? I’m a whiner.

  32. anonymous
    anonymous July 13, 2013 at 12:03 am | | Reply

    Yeah when did I say my biceps or triceps are bigger than his? Keep whining and maybe one day you will obtain a sport scholarship at a prestigious university

  33. Rdm
    Rdm July 13, 2013 at 8:20 am | | Reply

    ^ I don’t usually comment. But when I do, I see the troll.

    I don’t know when you said that. But you said his is off-season bulking, didn’t you?

    You came here as if calling Zaoming as an answer to Arnold in China is ridiculous.
    You came here to read Chinese man and Western women pairing story.
    You blamed when a Western female (who is now officially a wife of a young Chinese men) complimented her husband for whatever reason.

    Then you left the hint like you’re in MMA cage, Pro-Muay Thai, and now with a sport scholarship in prestigious university, while demeaning other couples story in terms of comparing Zaoming to Arnold.

    Let me just say a final word to you, dude.

    I’m a Chinese from US. When I caught a glimpse at your Ontario board at the back, I thought I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt at least for your achievement. Now with the hubris?

    Dude come and visit my Ivy league university in US. It’s claimed the most beautiful campus among Ivies.
    I’m gonna leave the part where scholarship counts.

    I’m not here trying to compare your achievements and others. You came here and saw Zaoming and his wife photos right in front of your computer. You have the advantage of seeing how Zaoming looks like and how his wife looks like in real person. While nobody here knows how exactly you look like and what you’ve been up to. Then you came and read their story, left the negative comment the first of which is something to do with his off-season bulking, not to mention with “Anonymous” nickname. Then all others shot you down, and you came up with the title issue, and called everybody here as “whining folks”.

    Only after did I ask you to show me yours, you came up with your youtube. And when I officially “whine”, you came up another line of “sport scholarship in prestigious university.”

    I’m not against your achievements and effort. But don’t act like everybody here is 12 years old teenager who is a lonely virgin, waiting to read some of those love stories every now and then with “ridiculous” comparison.

    As a friendly advice to you, don’t come up with hubris.


    I’m gonna go off 3, 2, 1…..

  34. Anonymous
    Anonymous July 13, 2013 at 11:03 am | | Reply

    well, part of a public discussion: there will be people disagreeing with you… probably should learn to deal with it. So far the rebuttal to my disagreement has included infantile tactics like calling me trolls, calling me an idiot.
    Well, I can tell you all the achievements I have hinted are true. hell, I even let others see who I am and what I do, it’s the rest of you who are hiding behind the computer anonymously. As for the name, that field space can be written as anything….. Anonymous, Rdm, Laura without any verification required.
    Ok, you`re saying just because I am in canada, I don`t have a prestigious school offer. OK then it`s your entitled opinion.
    If I put on my youtube channel, saying that just because I date my gf, a blonde girl with D cup, should I say it`s my answer to Scarlet Johanson?

    p.s: i dont read chinese

  35. Bruce
    Bruce July 13, 2013 at 11:40 am | | Reply


    I’m curious on your wrestling scholarship dude since you’re an Asian guy. Normally, Asian students don’t get scholarship for sports except for academics . Jeremy Lin supposed to get a basketball scholarship but didn’t get one because he was not black/white. It’s called discrimination.

    I love bodybuilding for a long long time until now. I love it so much that I have to pose everyday in the mirror :). I have a horse shoe shaped triceps that I love . I’m in my early 40’s and I still work out 2 to 4 times a week. First of all, how can we compare with Arnold and other professional bodybuilders when we don’t us steroid. It’s not humanly possible to maintain a 3% body fat at 240lbs or 280lbs all muscles. Look at the peak of their muscles and muscle mass dude. Normal human won’t reach this level because you get tired and your muscles won’t recover that fast with a 6 days exercise routine. Actually, I haven’t age that much because I work out religiously but I do get weaker with age.

  36. Anonymous
    Anonymous July 13, 2013 at 12:50 pm | | Reply

    @bruce: well, I guess in my case I didn’t get discriminated, because we Canadians are awesome????
    plus, it wasn’t me who compare Arnie with this dude. It was the original post that did, and it was me who said comparing the two is pretenious.

  37. forest
    forest July 13, 2013 at 9:45 pm | | Reply

    I don’t see the benefit of winning an argument and making others angry. Sure everyone is stranger on internet, but the attitude may carry on in real life. It is not good for professional and personal life. Just an opinion.

  38. Allen
    Allen July 14, 2013 at 2:46 am | | Reply

    I won’t get too sentimental since I’m a guy, but its a very nice story. Its meant to encourage (Chinese) guys to approach, and Western women to at least keep an open mind.

    Nitpicking and cutting people down is more ridiculous than any inexact or uneven comparison made in the narrative. Let it go.

    Ming seems like a decent fellow and I wish the couple much happiness. Thanks to Rosalie for sharing.

  39. David
    David July 16, 2013 at 12:19 pm | | Reply

    One lucky dude in all respects. In most circumstances he would have been accused of stalking!

  40. Bruce
    Bruce July 19, 2013 at 1:48 pm | | Reply

    It’s much easier if you work on your body and women will notice you. More than a decade ago, I worked out with my friends and we didn’t have much problems finding gf or dates. It’s just easier when you have the body . No matter if the woman is black, white or Asian. Once you stand out from the rest of other men, women recognize you.

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