Double Happiness: A Kiss 12 Years in the Making | Speaking of China

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  1. BRUCE
    BRUCE March 16, 2012 at 10:43 am | | Reply

    What a wonderful love story!!! You know your story is exactly like my friend’s relationship.. exact the same!! Fate I’m telling. I’m not kidding here. very similar!!! Now my friend is married to his over a decade in the making love interest!!

  2. ordinary malaysian
    ordinary malaysian March 16, 2012 at 10:57 am | | Reply

    Well, well, well.. what a story! 12 years wait for the first kiss! Like Bruce said, yuan fen 缘分 (destiny) at work? Looks like it. Well, what’s preventing the relationship from going further? If both of you are feeling missing out on so many things, why not come out and let families know? You don’t deserve to suffer further. You deserve to have a happy life. Your bf seems like such a wonderful fellow and supportive. You both can make it happen. All power to you guys.

  3. BRUCE
    BRUCE March 16, 2012 at 10:59 am | | Reply

    Honestly, I truly believe that our women love asian men like us is because we are extremely supportive . Our women’s problems are our problems! My wife said ” I can’t live without you. There’s no one like you. Everything I look for in a man” I said” there are lots of prince charmings out there” . There is always sometimes that turns you on about that person so you just love him/her more and more.


  4. Sveta
    Sveta March 16, 2012 at 6:50 pm | | Reply

    Sounds like a very sweet story. I wish you the best of luck 🙂

  5. Sveta
    Sveta March 16, 2012 at 6:53 pm | | Reply

    When I was in middle school I had a crush on this guy that was a mutt; quarter Hawaiian, quarter Native American, quarter Irish and something else 😀 He looked extremely handsome, like an Asian guy haha. For one reason or another he and I always ended up in same classes and when I was in tenth grade he was my first official kiss! For two years I had a crush on him and finally he was my kiss. I wish the relationship could have led to marriage (wold have been sweet since we knew of each other for so long,) but alas, he broke up with me. At least he was my first kiss. How lucky is it that I get to tell people that my first kiss was my first long time crush?

  6. Mayte
    Mayte March 16, 2012 at 8:25 pm | | Reply

    Wow! Rebekah, that takes me back to my own high school days. I had a boyfriend, but he was useless, so I would have gladly given him up because I had a crush on the Chinese guy in my business class. We actually used to talk a lot and I wish he would have made a move. I was also painfully shy at the time so I wouldn’t have been the one to initiate anything. I doubt things would have gone as well as they have with Rebekah’s story. But I would have liked the chance to try.

    Hopefully, Rebekah has moved forward with her man and taken steps to become more a part of his life. It’s hard sometimes to do that, but if you’ve waited 12 years for a kiss and worked through 5 more years of a relationship, I think that’s all you need to know you’re heading in the right direction. I’m sure the parents will see it too.

  7. Susan Blumberg-Kason
    Susan Blumberg-Kason March 17, 2012 at 12:25 pm | | Reply

    What a heart-wrenching story. It sounds like it was meant to be, but it’s too bad she can’t go to his family functions. That would bother me. Sometimes families will surprise you when you least expect it. I married into a traditional Catholic family when I was a single mother of an 8 year old boy. It was scary at first to meet the family, but they were very accepting and treated me just as well as the other in-laws.

  8. Rebekah
    Rebekah March 19, 2012 at 5:47 am | | Reply

    Hey there everyone! 🙂
    Thank you all for enjoying the read, I do love sharing that story and had not done so in a long while.
    To clarify why we haven’t moved forward yet – YES, my boyfriend is a darling, but sometimes it’s just too much for him.
    I have felt this was fate for years, but like I originally said – sometimes life like’s to throw you a curve-ball. At the moment my bf and I are barely able to see each other. He hasn’t been here overnight more than once in over 6 months. When we do get to see each other it’s in the daytime when my son is at school. Our first date in months was back around Valentine’s Day. The reason for this is because the moment my boyfriend walks in the door my son wants ALL of our attention. He’s not like other kids that will go off to their room and play(or go to bed depending on the time). My son has been through so much and the emotional toll it took on him makes him extremely clingy. It is very, VERY hard on my boyfriend. He wants to take that next step, but really doesn’t know whether he can deal with what I go through 24/7. When I say I have no help, I really do not. Both my parents are gone and my ex – well, he’s a story best left untold…haha! My boyfriend does all he can to support me emotionally, but I think as of late it is taking it’s toll on him.
    Anyway, I didn’t want to leave you all hanging. Thanks again to Jocelyn for publishing my story.
    Take Care. 🙂

  9. BRUCE
    BRUCE March 20, 2012 at 3:42 pm | | Reply


    Normally, kids won’t be soo attached when they reach 11 or 12 yrs old. Well, if he loves your boy then he doesn’t mind spending all his time with him. Just my thought. It’s alot of work when you have kids.


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