Why limit yourself? Logan Lo shares his interracial dating story | Speaking of China

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  1. SBC
    SBC September 27, 2013 at 2:46 am | | Reply

    Thanks for sharing Logan. 🙂 I think even though I am not an asian guy and don’t particular mind good old brown eyes, the advice of going out of your comfort zone and giving yourself a chance, is one you could apply in every day life. Wise words.

    1. Logan Lo
      Logan Lo September 27, 2013 at 1:33 pm | | Reply

      No problem! I think it was a good lesson for me to learn and apply to all areas of my life. After all, who hasn’t had unpleasant things happen to them in life? I didn’t want these things to hurt me any more than they already did.

      Thanks for reading and the comment!

  2. IC
    IC September 27, 2013 at 10:53 am | | Reply

    This is kind of person you should have as friend. Postive attitude and enfluence will help you overcome obstacle in life.

    Whinning people introduce negative energy into your life and shorten your life expectancy.

    Sorry, you have to cut losers off your life.

  3. IC
    IC September 27, 2013 at 11:09 am | | Reply

    BTW, I have similar taste like Lo. Almost all my dates have either blue, green, or silver eyes.

    But light blue eyes girls often have a lot of neuroticism. Just personal experience.

    1. Logan Lo
      Logan Lo September 27, 2013 at 1:46 pm | | Reply

      It’s good when you’re on the “keep” column in people’s lives. =)

      I think that often times, people are just not well-suited to each other. I have a cousin that just loves sports. He’s a fine fella but I’m not a sports guy and he’s not a fencing guy. So we’re cordial but not close. That’s just how it is and I think it wouldn’t make either of us happy for it to be more.

      As for the girls with colored eyes, I’ve found they run the full range of personalities, but that may be just me.

      Thanks for the comment!

  4. Sveta
    Sveta September 27, 2013 at 10:18 pm | | Reply

    Good job at being positive. In my experience though, things happen when you least expect them or when you least look forward to them, or when you give up on them. I’m not saying I’m right, but it has been that way in my experience at least.

  5. forest
    forest September 29, 2013 at 8:44 pm | | Reply

    Thanks for sharing the story and giving the great advise for all of us, especially for but not limited to shy Asian men.
    I had a meeting with a supper smart Asian guy who could not even look me in the eyes when talking to me ! His idea about his comfort zone was to do a great job on projects without interacting with other people. Good luck for being used, being stepped upon and never getting a promotion. Good luck for finding the girl you like ! Through him, I can clearly see myself in middle school.
    After being forced to go to many parties full of none Asian strangers, and experiencing awkwardness and disappointment, and finally discovering that people are people, girls are girls, I no longer limit myself in self created cage and start to reach out to other people. And wow, what a new world! it is really fascinating to listen to other people’s stories, experiences, and feelings. Something you may never know if you stay in your comfort zone.

    1. Logan Lo
      Logan Lo October 2, 2013 at 2:12 pm | | Reply

      I think you hit the nail on the head when you used the word “cage” – because that’s really what it is, isn’t it? When a person has all of these self-limiting thoughts, they’re in their own private prison and they usually don’t even know it.

  6. forest
    forest September 29, 2013 at 8:50 pm | | Reply

    “But light blue eyes girls often have a lot of neuroticism.”

    No. No more than Asian girls.

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