Fenshou: "Playing With Fire" In An Office Tryst | Speaking of China

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  1. Holly Hollins
    Holly Hollins December 5, 2014 at 6:30 am | | Reply

    Recently I have had a short little romance I would like to say…well not really. We don’t talk right now because he’s not replying to my messages.

    Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry for your loss on love. 🙁 Hoping the best for you.

    Sometimes love hurts, doesn’t it? Especially when you think it’s love. 🙁

  2. Constance - Foreign Sanctuary
    Constance - Foreign Sanctuary December 5, 2014 at 7:59 am | | Reply

    Even though the story was real life and like the author wrote, I knew the ending, I read every word. Its funny how love can be so hard sometimes.

  3. Nicki Chen
    Nicki Chen December 5, 2014 at 12:03 pm | | Reply

    It’s a lyrical story, honestly written. Maybe next time you are attracted to a woman, the time and circumstances will be right. I hope so. Don’t give up. Perhaps your next relationship will be romantic and at the same time have the staying power of a real, lifelong love. Best of luck.

  4. "Tom"
    "Tom" December 5, 2014 at 7:30 pm | | Reply

    I only want to say the people/commenters on this blog are really nice. And without their thoughts this would make for a different blog.

  5. Anna
    Anna December 6, 2014 at 1:06 am | | Reply

    Wow, what a story! As I was reading, I smiled myself at the first encounter and those awkward moment. Then it slowly developed into something funny and also something hidden from the entire story. It was well written. I was taking a ride from the female perspective.

    What happened 2 years later to them? Is she now married with somebody else?

    I once had a crush on an Asian guy. I even had a crazy thought of how it’d be like marrying an Asian guy. Well, we never went beyond occasional chit-chat because I was too shy.

    Thanks for sharing this story.

  6. Marta
    Marta December 6, 2014 at 8:49 am | | Reply

    Spicy! This kind of affairs leave the involved parties with a lasting memory because you can’t help but think: “What if it didn’t have to end like that?”, even though you knew from the beginning that it could not last because one person had to leave, or for any other reason. As Nicki said, the time and circumstances have to be right. Don’t say you are not sure if you will love another, yes you will!

  7. Susan Blumberg-Kason
    Susan Blumberg-Kason December 6, 2014 at 9:06 pm | | Reply

    I’ve heard so many stories like this, but not always in a cross-cultural context. I feel bad for him but he shouldn’t stay stuck in the past. He can find someone who can give him what he wants.

  8. Dan
    Dan December 6, 2014 at 10:13 pm | | Reply

    What happens to the alternative ending?

    You trace her down – easy to do in this connected world. Ask how she is doing and rekindle the passion. If it does not work, you move on. But if it does, you try to make it work for real. Love and lust is different thing.

    Sometimes you might even connect better after getting more mature. At least you won’t have to wonder about what ifs unless you try to give it another shot.

    Almost everything happens in life for a reason. You will need to answer for it for your own good. Sooner or later you will find out it is not some hard decision to make if you want to feel happy.

  9. Leslie - koreainmykitchen.com
    Leslie - koreainmykitchen.com December 7, 2014 at 8:59 am | | Reply

    wow! this was really well written!! I really enjoyed it!

  10. Miss Sixty
    Miss Sixty December 7, 2014 at 9:02 pm | | Reply

    I’m sorry things didn’t work out with her, but I hope you find the white woman of your dreams!

  11. Sveta
    Sveta December 8, 2014 at 1:28 pm | | Reply

    Beautifully written story, and sorry it didn’t work out.

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