Guest Post: My Abortion in China | Speaking of China

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  1. Noms
    Noms November 15, 2016 at 7:06 am | | Reply

    This was very powerful. I feel so strongly for you, Hun. I wish you the best and am happy to see that your husband is so amazing. Best wishes, do what’s best for you and when you are ready not only will you and your husband be happier so will your child. Much love. <3

    On another note; I'm brought to tears at how incredible the hospital treated this situation. Here in North America, I feel like women are treated like evil or murderers by everyone they encounter during this tough time. Even the nurses don't seem all that supportive. I've never experienced this but my friend had in Canada and she said it was very clinical but not nearly as horrific and judgemental as it is in the United States quite frequently.

  2. Autumn
    Autumn November 15, 2016 at 7:26 am | | Reply

    I am sure I only got a fraction of the misery reading your story as you felt living it, but, my God, that was powerful. Every idiot male like Mike Pence who thinks women are just having abortions to get off work ought to read this and then STFU and not have anymore opinions on female reproduction.

    Thank you for being courageous enough to share your story.

  3. Sveta
    Sveta November 15, 2016 at 7:44 am | | Reply

    Wow, my apologies that the author had to go through this tough time. I ended up being pregnant by accident, but there was no question that I wouldn’t abort the baby. WhIle he husband affirmed the woman’s belief in good men and institution of marriage, my baby’s father destroyed my belief in everything.

  4. S
    S November 15, 2016 at 4:23 pm | | Reply

    As a woman working in Asia, it is my responsibility to ensure my contraception is taken care of, even if i am not going to enter into a relationship of any sort while abroad.

    when i was fitted with an IUD device at home during a visit, chatting with the nurse about where i was working, she told me horror stories of the medieval contraptions she had had to remove from Chinese girls and the gynecological mess she had to patch up as best she could.
    While obviously not going into specifics, the nurse acknowledged that gynecological problems were the number 1 reason Chinese girls visited hospitals in my home country due to them having being subjected to questionable (if any) contraceptive practices in China , or because of the abortions they had already been through in China.

    While i acknowledge that sometimes an abortion is necessary, to use it as a means of contraception is ultimately damaging to a woman’s fertility (from a GP at home), and i would urge any woman thinking of travelling to live or work in Asia to deal with this prior to traveling, and NOT to rely on solutions (like TCM) in China.

    The quality of contraception in china is unreliable at best, either through fake medication, medieval torture instruments (as the nurse described the IUD devices she saw) or fake condoms.

    Educate and prepare yourself prior to travel so you don’t have to deal with the physical and emotional trauma of abortion.

    my sympathy to the poster for the trauma she had to endure.

    1. Miriam
      Miriam November 16, 2016 at 9:42 am | | Reply

      Wow, what you’ve described sounds too awful for words. The thought of IUDs (that are uncomfortable to have fitted at the best of times) being made like ‘torture instruments’ is horrifying.

      For doctors to take risks with contraception in a country like China where there is no government support for single women who accidentally get pregnant is appalling.

      There are so many things about the healthcare for women in China that makes my blood boil. I thought the fact that women are denied pain relief during childbirth was bad enough. However, women are being fitted with fake IUDs or being given sugar pills as contraceptives is a disgrace.

      Although lots of progress is being made in China, it seems like they still have a long way to go.

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