Guest Post: Raising Mixed Culture Kids in a Multicultural Environment | Speaking of China

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  1. Constance - Foreign Sanctuary
    Constance - Foreign Sanctuary March 6, 2015 at 10:18 am | | Reply

    I really enjoyed reading this post! Vancouver is such an amazing place to live and I just love the amount of effort Leslie puts in to making sure her children experience aspects of their Korean background.

    1. Leslie -
      Leslie - March 7, 2015 at 9:53 am | | Reply

      Thanks! It really is a beautiful place to live… with lots of cultures and lots of yummy food! 🙂

  2. Luc
    Luc March 6, 2015 at 2:27 pm | | Reply

    I always envy those people who are proud of their own cultures and confident of letting other people experience their cultures, like the guest of this post and her kids and husband – they show Korean-ness and Netherland-ness.

    I grew up poor in a family of factory workers in a huge central metropolis in China. Before I left for the US, almost all in my mind was to study hard, hard, and even harder. So I missed a lot of things such as how to be a social, urbane and eloquent. On 16th this month, 130 years ago, ‘Datsu A Ron’ was published in Japan when a radical modernisation was in progress at that time. Its stance of aligning then Japan with the West has influenced me very much since my childhood. I think the influence was too much that I hardly feel my Chinese-ness except I occasionally eat with chopsticks. Seldom do I speak Chinese these days. I didn’t realise that fading Chinese-ness was a problem until some newly met friends wanted to know more about my life before I came to the US – I could not talk about my ethnic identity with more than three sentences.

    When a guest post like this shows up, it couldn’t be more encouraging or inspiring.

    1. Leslie -
      Leslie - March 7, 2015 at 9:57 am | | Reply

      I agree with Jocelyn, it is never too late to reconnect. I think it is important for people (and my kids) to know where they are from and celebrate it! I don’t think your experience is uncommon for immigrants though. I’ve been told the US is a cultural melting pot rather than a cultural mosaic like Canada which might have played into your loss of culture. Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂

  3. Sarah@Diaries of a Yangxifu
    [email protected] of a Yangxifu March 6, 2015 at 4:05 pm | | Reply

    It sounds like a wonderful family dynamic, I’m sure all their efforts are very worthwhile. Vancouver sounds like a fab place to live – me and my Chinese husband would love to live in a city where we’re ‘normal’ one day, in the UK I think only London comes close.

  4. Timo
    Timo March 7, 2015 at 1:15 am | | Reply

    I am wondering how my son will be (and possible future children) when it comes to sports. Will he cheer for China, Finland or Germany? 🙂

    We have it as well that many people are commenting what a nice tan he got. Furthermore all Europeans say he looks so Asian and every Chinese says that he looks so European :p

    1. Leslie -
      Leslie - March 7, 2015 at 9:58 am | | Reply

      It’s fun to have lots of countries to cheer for. It makes international competitions more exciting! 🙂

  5. David
    David March 7, 2015 at 3:50 am | | Reply

    Vancouver much better than London for mixed race couples.

  6. Emily
    Emily March 7, 2015 at 11:15 am | | Reply

    Great article Les! I agree, having different cultures in the family makes cheering for events so much fun! We love that we get to live down the road from you and enjoy your Korean cooking first hand

  7. Ri
    Ri March 8, 2015 at 7:53 pm | | Reply

    If he is smart (and I’m sure he is!) he may decide to use smart cheering on tactics by cheering on whatever country is the strongest in that sport. I mean for ice hockey, who would consider cheering for anything but Finland? 😀

    1. Ri
      Ri March 8, 2015 at 7:54 pm | | Reply

      Oh no, I meant to direct this at Crazy Chinese Family! (My brain is broken, sorry!)

      Anyway, great post and thank you to Leslie for sharing! I can relate to a good, healthy mixture of cultures in my own upbringing and am very happy an appreciative of it as an adult. ^^

      1. Timo
        Timo March 8, 2015 at 8:02 pm | | Reply

        Good thing that I checked this post today :p

        Yeah, i think when it comes to icehockey Nathan won’t have any troubles to decide which country to cheer for. I highly doubt that he will start becoming a China National Team Ice Hockey fan…wait, do they even have one??

  8. R Zhao
    R Zhao March 11, 2015 at 2:43 pm | | Reply

    It’s nice to read a positive post about cross-cultural/biracial families. This gives me hope! I also really like Leslie’s blog. Fun recipes and comics!

    1. Leslie
      Leslie March 12, 2015 at 1:44 am | | Reply

      Thanks so much! 🙂

  9. Sveta
    Sveta March 17, 2015 at 9:47 am | | Reply

    Beautiful kids and very handsome husband 🙂 If I’ll be with someone, wow, my future kids will have a lot of cultures to uphold; Judaism, Russian, some American and whatever happens to be the father’s nationality…

  10. marghini
    marghini March 19, 2015 at 9:44 pm | | Reply

    I think about this quite a lot, even though there is no imminent plan to have kids.

    I wonder what the right place for raising mixed children would be, an environment where they could feel accepted and comfortable. As much as the world is moving forward about mixed families, I think the places where such a family can truly feel 100% comfortable are still not a lot. Therefore, I feel like our choice is limited in that sense.

    I guess for my boyfriend and me the right place will be somewhere in Europe, maybe UK as we are both fluent in English and he is also a citizen. I know Italy would not be a good fit for us as mixed families are still very uncommon and definitely non accepted everywhere.

  11. Cenn John
    Cenn John December 6, 2016 at 6:56 pm | | Reply

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