Guest Post: The privilege of stereotypes about cross-cultural couples in China | Speaking of China

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  1. Constance - Foreign Sanctuary
    Constance - Foreign Sanctuary May 23, 2014 at 12:13 pm | | Reply

    “But relationships are, at heart, not between ethnic groups, not between social groupings, nor even between men and women. They are between individual people.”

    Very true! When I look at my husband, I see the man I love! However, most people see our differing ethnic backgrounds first. And I don’t think it is going to change anytime soon. It is just the way it is.

  2. Harland
    Harland May 23, 2014 at 1:10 pm | | Reply

    I see our guest poster is apparently a conservative individualist. He still doesn’t understand that as a white male, he is part of a collective and it doesn’t really matter what he does because it’s the collective that’s guilty of genocide and racism. It sounds like he’s never had a class on Critical Race Theory in his life, sadly.

    1. Reiko
      Reiko May 24, 2014 at 11:01 am | | Reply

      Wow. Did you even read? The post was all about the Critical Race Theory we’re dealing with and the collective he’s stuck in. (Which provides for the WM sneers he receives.) How is someone conservative while trying to change the thought process of other people? Wouldn’t that be the opposite, say.. Revolutionary?

      The urge to first judge racially, culturally and on power cannot be erased from human behavioural instinct in the blink of an eye. It has been present and pressed for centuries. However by building an extra layer of awareness individuals can learn to overcome judging on such forms of prejudice. If I’m not mistaken, that is exactly what the writer hopes to accomplish.

      I’m what some would call the WF part of a “AMWF couple”. I’m very glad of this article. Either rarity or stereotype it is time to stop overhyping groups, to stop sensationalising. In the end it is but a human and a human.

  3. chinaelevatorstories
    chinaelevatorstories May 23, 2014 at 1:25 pm | | Reply

    Beautifully said! I have the same experience as Constance. It’s usually strangers or people who don’t know you well enough who will think or talk about you in stereotypes, but those who do know you better will see you for the person you are.

  4. Random Black Guy
    Random Black Guy May 24, 2014 at 1:10 am | | Reply

    So this guy is just mad about not getting a book deal. My god this guy sound like the white american who believe racism towards white is bigger problem. God I cannot wait for europe to turn into a super majority rainbow and multiethnic society.

  5. David
    David May 24, 2014 at 3:49 am | | Reply

    The collective exported communism from the west to destroy Asia…Pol Pot, etc…and now the collective is trying to use moslem fundamentalism to the same end…now that is the critical race theory!

  6. Sveta
    Sveta May 26, 2014 at 7:53 am | | Reply

    No matter who I am, I’m always on the minority be it culture, religion, faith, likes, dislikes and so forth. Majority is something I can’t relate to at all, I’ll admit. Let’s say it this way: both sides have advantages and disadvantages to them. The reason I focus on AMWF literature so much on my blog is first of all to bring normalcy to the couple and to make Asian men more desirable beyond what they were given by Hollywood and others.

  7. Ri
    Ri May 26, 2014 at 7:36 pm | | Reply

    I wondered where this was going, but I think it finished beautifully. It’s easy to label, dismiss and ignore… on both sides. A good reminder for everyone. ^^

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