Chapter 28: Of Chinese Medicine and Balance

Chinese traditional medicine can bring your body back into balance. When my health was out of balance, my Chinese boyfriend used the principles and approach of Chinese medicine to help me recover.

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Chapter 27: I Don’t Need Your Mianzi

Giving face — or mianzi — in China can be puzzling. When I tried to give my Chinese neighbors face, by introducing them to my foreign friends, they actually thought it was an opportunity for them to give me face, when I never asked for it.

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Ask the Yangxifu: How Western Women Can Meet Chinese Men in China

How can Western women meet Chinese men in China? Jocelyn, a Western woman with a Chinese husband, gives some advice on places to go, people who can help, and ways you can make yourself more attractive.

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Chapter 26: Hello, Foreigner – and Goodbye, Generosity

Sometimes you misunderstand China, or China misunderstands you. When out with an old classmate of my Chinese boyfriend, he misunderstands my response to being singled out as a foreigner, and gives me a less-than-generous lecture.

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Chapter 25: No Chinese, No American, Just Lunch

John, my Chinese boyfriend, wasn’t the only one who could make me feel less foreign in China. My new Chinese friend, Zhang Bin, tells me we should see each other as people, not nationalities.

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Chapter 24: Tied in Chinese Knots over John

When you have a Chinese boyfriend, sometimes cultural dating expectations can tie you up in knots. My perfectionism and tendency to see too far ahead causes me to lose focus on the happiness of now.

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Chapter 23: The Sound of Silence in Love

In Chinese, you can say so much, with so little. When John, my Chinese boyfriend, becomes quieter during our break, I begin to wonder what the silence between us really means.

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Ask the Yangxifu: A Big, Fat, Traditional Chinese Wedding?

What if your Chinese boyfriend’s parents want the big, traditional Chinese wedding — and you don’t? Jocelyn, who has been married to her Chinese husband since 2004, offers advice on how to negotiate a wedding everyone will love.

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Chapter 22: Hitting the Great Wall(s) of Beijing

Sometimes, you hit walls in life in China. And sometimes, you hit walls on the way to the Great Wall. When my Chinese boyfriend and I toured Beijing, we discovered the obstacles that come when you’re young and traveling China on a budget.

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