Chapter 43: Going to John’s China Hometown

John’s ancestors come from the area near Huangshan — one of China’s most impressive mountains. But his family lives in a countryside ravaged by economic development. I see this first-hand when I visit during Chinese New Year, 2003.

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Chapter 42: New Clothes for Chinese New Year

In Chinese New Year, wearing new clothes means a new beginning. One night, after losing my job, I commission a new Chinese-style outfit, in the hopes of a new beginning with John’s parents — and, eventually, with my career.

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Chapter 41: Losing Jobs and Gaining Chinese Friends

As I lost my job in the Chinese Internet company, Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, became closer to management. I never thought Frank would understand, and didn’t see how we could stay friends, until one harried night when I left the company.

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Chapter 40: Negotiating For My Life in China

Sometimes, you have to negotiate for your life in China. After losing my job and visa, my Chinese boyfriend and I faced my Chinese boss with a list of demands — and a lot of fear.

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Chapter 39: On the Border, at the Public Security Bureau

What happens when you’re on the legal border in China? When my work visa had expired for two days, I had to face the consequences at the Public Security Bureau in China — and save my life in China.

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China Blogs by Western Women who Love Chinese Men

As we remember the women who make a difference in our world, there’s one minority voice we shouldn’t forget — the Western women who love Chinese men.

China blogs are still a man’s world, so our voices are often lost in the comments and trackbacks. But Western women who love Chinese men have a unique perspective to a woman’s experience in China — which makes their blogs even more valuable in the blogsphere. Here’s my list, in alphabetical order (according to the blog’s name).

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