Chapter 21: A Foreign Face in Beijing

As a foreigner in China, sometimes your “foreign face” is your most useful asset. When my company attends a conference in Beijing, they bring me along, because my foreign face makes them look more international.

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Chapter 20: The Forbidden Heart of My Ex-Chinese Boyfriend

When Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, and I were forced together against our will — attending a conference in Beijing — he used language to create distance, making his heart as fortified as the Forbidden City in Beijing once was.

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Chapter 19: Only Mandarin-Speaking Foreigners Belong in China?

Are Mandarin-speaking foreigners the only ones who can integrate into China? Or will foreigners always be foreigners no matter what (and stand apart from the crowd)? My European friend Camille posed the question to me one evening during a walk in Hangzhou.

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Chapter 17: A Dream Of Life Without My Chinese Boyfriend

On an afternoon alone, as I read through “A Dream of Red Mansions,” and lost power in my apartment, I wondered what would happen in my life without my Chinese boyfriend, John, who was leaving Hangzhou for graduate school in Shanghai.

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Chapter 16: Foreign Girlfriend or Fascinating Moonlight Tale?

Was I asking too much, to be the foreign girlfriend of a Chinese man? I wondered, after he told me his parents thought we shouldn’t date.

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