Chapter 23: The Sound of Silence in Love

In Chinese, you can say so much, with so little. When John, my Chinese boyfriend, becomes quieter during our break, I begin to wonder what the silence between us really means.

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Ask the Yangxifu: A Big, Fat, Traditional Chinese Wedding?

What if your Chinese boyfriend’s parents want the big, traditional Chinese wedding — and you don’t? Jocelyn, who has been married to her Chinese husband since 2004, offers advice on how to negotiate a wedding everyone will love.

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Chapter 22: Hitting the Great Wall(s) of Beijing

Sometimes, you hit walls in life in China. And sometimes, you hit walls on the way to the Great Wall. When my Chinese boyfriend and I toured Beijing, we discovered the obstacles that come when you’re young and traveling China on a budget.

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Chapter 21: A Foreign Face in Beijing

As a foreigner in China, sometimes your “foreign face” is your most useful asset. When my company attends a conference in Beijing, they bring me along, because my foreign face makes them look more international.

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Chapter 20: The Forbidden Heart of My Ex-Chinese Boyfriend

When Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, and I were forced together against our will — attending a conference in Beijing — he used language to create distance, making his heart as fortified as the Forbidden City in Beijing once was.

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Chapter 19: Only Mandarin-Speaking Foreigners Belong in China?

Are Mandarin-speaking foreigners the only ones who can integrate into China? Or will foreigners always be foreigners no matter what (and stand apart from the crowd)? My European friend Camille posed the question to me one evening during a walk in Hangzhou.

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