Chapter 19: Only Mandarin-Speaking Foreigners Belong in China?

Are Mandarin-speaking foreigners the only ones who can integrate into China? Or will foreigners always be foreigners no matter what (and stand apart from the crowd)? My European friend Camille posed the question to me one evening during a walk in Hangzhou.

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Chapter 17: A Dream Of Life Without My Chinese Boyfriend

On an afternoon alone, as I read through “A Dream of Red Mansions,” and lost power in my apartment, I wondered what would happen in my life without my Chinese boyfriend, John, who was leaving Hangzhou for graduate school in Shanghai.

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Chapter 16: Foreign Girlfriend or Fascinating Moonlight Tale?

Was I asking too much, to be the foreign girlfriend of a Chinese man? I wondered, after he told me his parents thought we shouldn’t date.

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Chapter 15: Climbing Back Into Love With John

My Chinese boyfriend John and I didn’t just climb a mountain that afternoon — we climbed back into love, after a morning when I wondered if my shadows would push him away.

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Chapter 14: The China Road of Misunderstanding

In our journey through China, we don’t always understand the country, or our Chinese lovers. I didn’t one morning, on a trip to my Chinese boyfriend’s hometown.

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Chapter 13: Different Eggplant, Different Cultural Expectations

Sometimes, cultural expectations in China will surprise you. I cooked eggplant for my Chinese boyfriend, John, and the result wasn’t what either of us expected.

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Chapter 12: What is Buried Beneath Our Hearts, and Lakes, in China

Sometimes, in cross-cultural love in China, we are so lost in the adventure that we cannot see what is buried beneath the surface of our hearts.

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Chapter 11: Exes in China Make Bad Friends

It’s tough to be friends with your ex in China. I didn’t want to admit it, but I’d turned my back on Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, that night of my birthday, and later with a careless text message.

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Chapter 10: Did I Ask John to Move In?

My Chinese boyfriend moved himself in only days after our first kiss. I loved him and was happy to have him — but I couldn’t help but feel surprised.

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