Chapter 11: Exes in China Make Bad Friends

It’s tough to be friends with your ex in China. I didn’t want to admit it, but I’d turned my back on Frank, my ex-Chinese boyfriend, that night of my birthday, and later with a careless text message.

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Chapter 10: Did I Ask John to Move In?

My Chinese boyfriend moved himself in only days after our first kiss. I loved him and was happy to have him — but I couldn’t help but feel surprised.

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Chapter 9: Of Birthday Stares and Undeniable Love for John

With my burgundy qipao, up-do and bouquet of flowers, I became the talk of the teahouse during my birthday celebration. But it was the love on my face for John, my new Chinese boyfriend, that gave my relationship away.

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Chapter 8: John is My Chinese Boyfriend

John becomes my Chinese boyfriend beside Hangzhou’s West Lake, when the night sky makes China forget we are a Western woman and Chinese man.

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Chapter 6: I’ll be watching you in China

Did your Chinese friend or lover ever charm you with their reliability — that they would be there for you, even to see your bus off? John, my Chinese coworker, was always watching for me, as his way of showing he cared.

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Chapter 4: The Embarrassment of Love in China

Sometimes love is so embarrassing in China, you have to laugh. I did when my twentysomething Chinese friends teased me about the possibility of love, with a Chinese man.

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Chapter 3: Shortcomings

I love my Chinese man, in all of his stature, now, but I had doubts when I first realized I was taller than him. Could I live with a short Chinese boyfriend?

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Chapter 2: My Chinese Matchmaker, Caroline

Did your Chinese friends ever play matchmaker for you? After a failed relationship with a Chinese man, Caroline was determined to help find me someone better — even if it meant playing matchmaker to me.

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