Chapter 1: My Heart is Shut Away, My Chinese Boyfriend is Gone

I felt isolated and alone after I broke up with Frank, my Chinese boyfriend and deskmate. My Chinese friends, Caroline and John, took me away on a trip to console me — but it was the beginning of a relationship I never saw coming.

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The Grass is Greener?: when the romance ends, and China’s reality begins

After living with John, my Chinese boyfriend, for more than two years in Shanghai — and marrying him — I experienced the difficulties of an average Chinese through him.

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A Chinese boyfriend/Chinese husband and foreign woman 30 years ago, through “Son of the Revolution”

When Liang Heng and Judy Shapiro fell in love in China in 1979, they weren’t just a rarity — they were pioneers at a time when the idea of marriages between foreigners and Chinese were still questionable.

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The emotional yin-yang: Of one calm Chinese husband, and a sensitive American wife

Could a Chinese guy ever love an American girl who is emotional, and isn’t afraid to cry? I began to wonder, after one Chinese man chastised me for being too emotional, ending our relationship.

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On the Rarity of Foreign Women and Chinese Boyfriends/Chinese Husbands

Couples of Chinese men and Western women are a rarity. Why is that? Jocelyn, an American who has a Chinese husband, explores the reasons, from stereotypes to cultural barriers.

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