Chapter 15: Climbing Back Into Love With John

My Chinese boyfriend John and I didn’t just climb a mountain that afternoon — we climbed back into love, after a morning when I wondered if my shadows would push him away.

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Chapter 14: The China Road of Misunderstanding

In our journey through China, we don’t always understand the country, or our Chinese lovers. I didn’t one morning, on a trip to my Chinese boyfriend’s hometown.

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Chapter 12: What is Buried Beneath Our Hearts, and Lakes, in China

Sometimes, in cross-cultural love in China, we are so lost in the adventure that we cannot see what is buried beneath the surface of our hearts.

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Chapter 6: I’ll be watching you in China

Did your Chinese friend or lover ever charm you with their reliability — that they would be there for you, even to see your bus off? John, my Chinese coworker, was always watching for me, as his way of showing he cared.

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“Zao sheng guizi”: the pressure of having babies in a Chinese family

Here I am, a girl who never had a strong “maternal instinct” or drive to have children, in a Chinese family and culture that sees pregnancy and birth as a prerequisite, instead of an elective.

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