Ask the Yangxifu: Dealing with “When Will You Get Married?” & Other Awkward Chinese Family Questions
*+-A Western woman living in Asia with her Chinese boyfriend wonders how to deal with awkward questions from his mom, like “When will you get married?”
*+-John and I have been married for 10 years, live in China and have no kids. But as being childless isn’t normal, we’ve had our share of awkward experiences.
*+-I think the love of a Chinese family is one of the best kept secrets in the world. And if ever there was an example, it’s our upcoming move to Hangzhou.
*+-It’s amazing how a simple walk through my husband’s village in rural Zhejiang suddenly opens up unexpected doors and hearts.
*+-Some men in Asia carry their girlfriends’/wives’ bags for them or carry so-called “manbags” of their own. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
*+-Though I still equate the word “invitation” with notice, I’m learning to appreciate the beauty in a sudden invite, like my big uncle’s dinner in China.
*+-To my parents, my Chinese father-in-law was that “hard-to-buy-for” guy — which reminded me of how many of us struggle with cross-cultural gift giving.
*+-Here are three things I wish I had known when I first started dating Chinese men.